“You have to get out of your comfort zone, and that’s where the best, miracles, real life will begin.” A very common thought, but it really confuses me. What’s wrong with it? The comfort zone, a rather business concept, but which has migrated to psychology, is understood as feeling safe and confident. A safe feeling of oneself is a very individual and subtle attunement of many environmental factors, life situation and internal sensation signaling the absence of danger. And for all people this setting and balance within the zone is different. In our (especially our) culture, you can often live and not know in principle what a comfort zone is? What comfort? What is it like when I feel good? When am I trusting and calm? And in general, am I confident and safe? Now? Was there ever? Therefore, I would start by finding what this personal, for example, comfort zone of mine is. How's that for me? What does it consist of? And since I am alive and changing, and the environment around me is changing, then my feeling of this zone and security will accordingly change dynamically - then we are talking about comfort zones, and not one zone throughout life. After I get to know my comfort zone at the moment, it would be nice to stay in it, to stay. This stay in a safe and comfortable place (as much time as a particular person needs at a given stage of life) gives an increase in resource and imbues him with strength. And here I can take a break from solving security problems and let myself turn to what kind of world this is around me. Look, observe what is beyond the boundaries of your comfort zone, and here a desire to learn a little more, wider, further may be born. Having filled with resources, I myself will want to go out of it, into the world, beyond the boundaries of the familiar and comfortable. That is, I don’t “need” to do this according to the logic of what is happening in this zone (if it is really about comfort and resources for me) - but I will want this and will inevitably do it. And if I don’t do this yet, perhaps I am not yet in the comfort zone. I haven’t met it yet, or I have, but I haven’t been in it for as long as I personally need to want to go out. And the way out of it is through the “I want” door, and not through the “need to” door».