From the author: I continue the publication of the book “How to save a family or when is it better to get a divorce” - how do they usually save a family? How do they usually save a family? Well, since, as we have already found out, women more often try to save the family, let's see in what ways they try to do this. If a woman has to make a choice: pride or well-being (stability, having children together, a feeling of happiness in the past and the hope of repeating this state with a given man), then she more often chooses well-being. How far-sighted and correct this is, we will still find out in the book, but for now there is a situation in which a leaving husband is seen as a threat to well-being and as a destroyer of the family hearth. If we systematize the ways to retain a man, we will get the following list. The most common method is children. Although a woman hears from her friends that this is useless, she sees in TV series how a man, sadly collecting his things, with downcast eyes, leaves his wife and children, despite tears or blackmail (“If you leave, you won’t see them again!”). But a woman also has other examples when a new pregnancy or a skillful play on paternal feelings still stopped a man. This means there is a chance, and it needs to be used. By the way, I know several cases when the wife’s pregnancy in different cases triggered almost the same scenario: don’t leave until I give birth - and now, give me the opportunity to find a nanny (place the child in a nursery, persuade the mother) and go to work - it seems to me this child is a symbol of our new relationship, let's try to start all over again! And in this way, time was gained, the relationship scenario was replayed, and life eventually got better: the man had already changed his mind, realized that the one he wanted to leave for was not so good, etc. The “pity” method is also often used. A woman creates a state of her own helplessness: the same pregnancy, but with complications, an oncological or gynecological disease. Moreover, “according to the doctor,” this disease was caused by chronic stress created by the man – “it’s all because of you!” She shouldn’t worry now, otherwise everything could escalate and have irreversible consequences. An influence group is created from his friends and relatives and together they begin to actively put pressure on nobility, pity and a sense of duty. Well, the extreme manifestation of this method is attempts or threats of suicide. A statement about suicide can also be attributed to another method - “threat”. In this case, the woman threatens not only her own suicide, but also grave consequences for him. If he leaves his family, not only his health may suffer, but also his career, business, and reputation. As a threat, the woman vows to take revenge - “I have nothing to lose!”, and turn to his management, partners, law enforcement agencies (especially if he has his own business, and she was aware of his affairs) and even engage in black PR in the press and on the Internet. (By the way, the threat to reputation is very effective in the West, but in our country only in special cases. In Soviet times there was an analogue of such a public moral whip - the party committee, trade union committee and other comas.) This works for some men, and they remain in the family. Another thing is what feelings they have for their spouse... Sometimes the “how wrong you were!” technique helps. A woman dramatically changes her image: hairstyle, hair color, clothing style, smell, and even communication style and manners. As a result, she becomes not only different, new, but also sexier and more attractive. As a result, men's interest in her increases, which is often brought to the attention of her husband in an exaggerated form. And now the husband joins the opinion of other men and begins to perceive his wife as an attractive object worthy of his attention. Some women, hoping for dark or light forces, turn to psychics, magicians, sorcerers, hoping for a miracle with the help of love spells, lapels, conspiracies and spells . The effectiveness of these methods is controversial. I know cases when after such trips