From the author: Article from the site dated 01/28/13 or Why do we choose the wrong man? Awareness at the first stage of dating plays a big role. It is from this stage that it depends - will you be happy in marriage or not? The stage of getting to know each other and getting to know each other is called the candy-bouquet period. And it doesn’t have to end with a wedding. It can simply end, and there is no tragedy in it. It is not intended for a woman to get ready for marriage with this particular person from the first day, but to get to know him better. How long does this period last? Usually from one month to one and a half years. The month is when you understand for sure that your partner is not yours and end the relationship. And a year and a half, if you assume that the man is yours and are ready to marry him. On every corner, psychologists warn about a responsible attitude towards choosing a partner. Don't get emotional and don't let passion overwhelm you before you get to know the person. When you make a choice about a man at the moment of falling in love, your consciousness is in an altered state. You simply do not see undesirable qualities, traits and habits at this moment. Falling in love is a big trap. Whose do you think it is? We know about the law of continuation of the human race, both in species and in time. Nature does not care with whom (with what subject specifically) you continue the human race. Of course, the genetic components are important for the survival of the race. And who it will be in your life, with whom you personally will start a family and with whom you will have children, she doesn’t care. Everything is logical. This is why you need to worry about “your beloved self” yourself, and not rely on fate. Otherwise, it will turn out like in the parable “Three Sisters and Fate” - you will meet someone who will be lost without you. Nature is very concerned that you like your partner while you are dating. That is, it puts you in a state of euphoria and you have the notorious “ rose-colored glasses You are delighted! You like everything! His courtship, appearance, behavior id. You think: This is Fate, this is Love! - and decide to get married. And what is very natural is that in this state you really want to give birth to a child, as a continuation of wonderful feelings and to strengthen the relationship. Now you are pregnant. The child was born. Nature rejoices! But then checks for lice begin on both partners and the “rose-colored” glasses quietly fall off. Why? You thought it was Fate! It turns out you were mistaken? The job is done, another little man has been born on planet Earth. Whether you divorce or suffer for the rest of your life with this man, nature doesn’t care. Although, if you have more children, it is only an advantage. No matter how absurd this information may seem to you, everything is very simple. All lovers are similar from the point of view of biochemistry. When we see an object that attracts our attention and arouses sincere interest as a potential partner, the limbic system is excited and releases hormones into the blood. The blood carries them throughout the body. Thinking slows down, and instincts take the leading position. When searching for a partner, sweat is a means of attracting attention. Tostosterone, a male hormone, is converted into androsterol, which is released with sweat. Bacteria living on the skin absorb it and release a gas that attracts women with its smell. Each person has their own set of bacteria and therefore their own special smell. This is a crucial moment. If you don’t like the smell, then the woman is not interested in this man, no matter how wonderful he is. The same thing happens with men in relation to women, but in women the sensitivity to smells is much more developed. People do not understand this and are not aware of it. Odorous molecules enter the nose and settle on nerve endings, which transmit signals not to the center of thinking, but directly to the limbic system of the brain. This is how smells manage to control the strongest instinct of the brain. Each of us has a small tube in our nose. This is the second olfactory system. The scientific name is vomeronasal. The tube can be compressed and unclenched. When we like a person and we accept him,.