Hello, friends! Today I want to talk to you about one very important and, unfortunately, often ignored topic - about a person’s personal boundaries. Imagine a situation: you are enjoying peace and tranquility in your home, relaxing after a hard day, and suddenly the doorbell rings. Without warning, without prior agreement, a friend or acquaintance invades your home, violating your personal space. How are you feeling at this moment? You are probably experiencing deep irritation and resentment, perhaps anger and discomfort. Or maybe you feel awkward and you don’t know how to explain to a person that you don’t want to see someone. Right? Friends, I want to assure you that such a feeling is absolutely normal and justified. Because every person has the right to his own personal boundaries, which must be strictly observed by others. These boundaries can be physical (personal space, touching), emotional (frank conversations, trust), temporary (when a person wants to be alone with himself) or any other. And no one has the right to violate them, even those closest to us. But why then do acquaintances so often invade our personal space without asking? There are several main reasons: The first and most common is a banal lack of education and respect for others. Some people simply do not think about the fact that their behavior may be unpleasant and intrusive to others. They are accustomed to living “not noticing” the space of others, and do not consider it necessary to ask permission. The second reason lies in the tendency of some people to manipulate and “emotional parasitism.” They deliberately ignore your boundaries because it makes it harder for you to refuse their requests and visits, and they take advantage of this. Thus, they try to use you for their own purposes, without thinking about your needs. The third reason is the desire of some people for excessive care and control. It seems to them that they have the right to invade your life because “they know better than you what you need.” They do not perceive you as an independent, autonomous person, but believe that you always need their supervision and intervention. And finally, the fourth reason is elementary inattention and forgetfulness. Sometimes friends and acquaintances simply overlook the fact that they need to ask your consent before coming. Maybe they grew up in a large family, where boundaries are often blurred and your principles are unfamiliar to them. They sincerely do not understand why you can be indignant at their visits, because “this is how it is” between good friends. But what to do if you are faced with similar situations? How to learn to defend your personal boundaries? Above all, remember that this is your birthright and you have every right to defend it. Don't be afraid to say "no" firmly and confidently if you don't like something. Explain calmly but persistently when and under what conditions you are comfortable communicating. In addition, do not hesitate to set clear rules and agree on a format of interaction that is convenient for you. Tell your friends that you need to pre-arrange visits and not just show up uninvited. Or let them know that you have a “quiet hour” mode when it is better not to disturb you. Don’t be afraid to be selfish in defending your interests - this is not a bad thing at all, but, on the contrary, a sign of psychological maturity. My dears, remember that the ability to set boundaries is the key to healthy, harmonious relationships. Only by asserting your personal space can you truly take care of yourself, avoid burnout, and enjoy being with others. So let's learn together to value and protect our boundaries.!