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Unconsciously, I did everything to keep the two worlds that exist inside me from touching. I avoided any possible connections between the worlds of the day child and the night child I had created, trying my best not to let anything pass from one to the other -Marilyn Van Derbur. Psychic trauma is damage caused to the psyche by an adverse influence. Some event occurs. which cannot be dealt with. The emotions are too strong. The nature of the event is such that it destroys the picture of the world previously accepted. I will give an example. The girl survived rape. Is this event traumatic? Yes, sure. She experiences feelings at their extreme intensity - fear, shame, anger, disgust and others that she cannot cope with on her own. In her picture of the world, something similar could happen to someone else, but not to her. What happens to the psyche in this case? The psyche breaks down into outwardly normal and affective parts. (We will further use the abbreviation adopted by Onno Van der Hart. VNL is an outwardly normal personality. AL is an affective personality). VNL is quite adaptive and capable of meeting the demands of today - going to work, doing household chores, building business and personal relationships. The ANP does not experience the emotional pain or other feelings associated with the traumatic event. VNL is “all right.” AL consists entirely of shock emotions and beliefs associated with the traumatic event. Thus, the psyche disintegrates and is no longer integral. The VNL tries with all available forces to avoid contact with the AL. However, the associative connections between brain cells work in such a way that the AL periodically still invades the precarious peace of the VNL. These intrusions look like living that same situation over and over again. It's a pain that doesn't go away. This is a fear that is only growing. This is a resentment that is getting stronger. These are beliefs like: “I’m dirty,” “it’s my fault,” “this doesn’t happen to normal people.” The serious condition will continue until the ANP regains control over emotions and behavior. A person on his own cannot regulate either the invasion of AL or the return to the post of VNL. Strictly speaking, during the course of his life, every person experiences a number of psychotraumas. Trauma can be forced dismissal from work, a painful separation, or a conflict with a loved one. It is noteworthy that the same event will be a trauma for one, but for another it will remain simply an extremely unpleasant fact. The psyche always disintegrates during trauma. However, if a person can share his feelings with other people, receive social support, sympathy and acceptance, hear words such as: “it’s not your fault,” “this happens,” “I’m with you”; then the psyche can regain its integrity by incorporating memories of the traumatic event into its life experience. This is what the normal course of trauma looks like. Let's return to our girl with the trauma of rape. Let's assume that she came to the police station that day. What is she most likely to encounter on the ward? With indifference at a minimum, with insults and rudeness at a maximum. In such conditions, retrauma occurs - repeated trauma to the psyche. The psyche disintegrates again, forming one or more affective parts. Why is it so bad that there are apparently normal and affective parts in the psyche, besides the regular and always unexpected invasion of AL with its shock emotions? In fact, VNL, despite its adaptation to the surrounding world, is an extremely disadvantaged part. She can experience only those feelings that seem safe to her and not associated with affective parts. Thus, a person, being in an ANL, is forced to live a life extremely poor in emotions and events; and periodically fall out of life while in the AL, choking on extreme emotions. (This article uses illustrations by Margaret Keane).