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Mom complains that the child is not sure, doubts everything, does not share news, does not talk about school everyday life. My grades have slipped lately, despite the fact that she and her husband control the educational process. I let go of the mother and move on to a conversation with the child. He sits in front of me, cowered. Reluctant to talk, answers questions through clenched teeth, as if afraid of something. I ask about school, about friends, about parents. In the end, the boy says an important phrase - it seems to me that no one loves me. I find out the reason for doubts about parental love. The answers are predictable: parents scold for bad grades, don’t notice good ones, don’t praise for helping around the house, and generally rarely approve, they are always busy with their own affairs. The problem of the family is understandable. The child does not feel loved. Parents, of course, love the child. However, they do not show their feelings to the child. It is natural to love your child. Why talk about love or show it, isn’t it already clear? But how does a child know about this? Showing your parental love is very important. The child needs confirmation of your love. This makes him happy, confident, stress-resistant, free, able to love. Many parents believe that praising a child and spending time with him is harmful. Here are the typical reasons: he will think too much about himself, he will grow up to be selfish, he will become a mummy's or daddy's boy, etc. But these are just irrational beliefs that harm your relationship with your child. So how do you show love to your child? How to show a little person that he is important and dear to you? Manifestations of love can be as follows: Through an exchange of glances Through physical contact - hugs, touches In moments of undivided attention Verbal expressions of love - praise, approval, emphasis on the child's successes Exchange of views. Without realizing it, we use gaze as our primary mode of communication. But many parents look into their child’s eyes when they want to make a strong impression on him or convey an important message: “Look at me, I’m talking to you!” Some parents avoid exchanging views altogether. But a look filled with love is important in establishing contact with the child, in order to satisfy the child’s emotional needs. When a child is crying, upset, tired, it is enough to look at his eyes to express sympathy and understanding. Exchange of views is a very important component of communication between a child and a parent. It is especially important when the child does not yet understand speech. A glance can express love, support, understanding, sympathy, approval. Use this technique with your children to make them feel loved. Physical contact. The child practically spends the first months of his life in the arms of his parents. Close physical contact with the mother is natural at this time (breastfeeding, co-sleeping). But as the baby gets older, physical contact between parent and child becomes less and less. And by school age, many children are completely deprived of it, although they urgently need it. Hug your child when he is depressed and when he is happy. Hug before bed. Touch him when he is sad or when you want to say something important. Hug just like that. Psychologists have a saying: “If you don’t stroke a child’s head every day, his brain dries out.” Through touching, hugging, stroking the head, you will convey your love to the child, and he will have fewer reasons to consider himself unnecessary and unloved. Moments of undivided attention - time completely devoted to communicating with the child. If there are several children in a family, such moments should be separate for each one. No matter how busy you are, no matter how busy you are, find moments for personal communication with your child. You can read a fairy tale or talk about the past day before going to bed. You can develop a ritual - Sunday walks together with your child. The number of minutes spent alone with your child is not so important when your attention is directed only to=168