The work of a psychologist: Interesting and Useful 636 Good afternoon, Dear Friends! And we continue to study the work of a psychologist and its various features, we continue to share our experience and knowledge accumulated during practice. I bring to your attention the six hundred and thirty-sixth article in the series! I continue the theme from yesterday’s article and yesterday’s notes. I am sending you to them first. They were talking about the fact that the client wants to suddenly leave the country with her children because of the situation, and her husband refused to help with this: “He is a traitor!” Client: “Not wars (these are the words of the client, everything is fine with us :) we need to be afraid... (but this is the husband’s attitude, it is implied).” A psychologist may react to this like this: “It seems that a war is brewing inside you.” A war with her husband, an internal conflict, since the family system is about to be broken due to the situation with the move. Psychologist: “What kind of feeling do you have inside right now?” Client: “Powerlessness.” But you don’t need to trust your clients so quickly. Even without reading past articles and notes, you can understand that she has anger and a lot of energy, because she is moving (already in the process), alone with children (!), she wants to open her business abroad right now, but this requires a lot of energy and it doesn’t really look like powerlessness. Maybe we are talking about the impossibility of convincing your husband and establishing a relationship with him? We clarify all this together with the client. Therapist: “It seems that you are talking about your strength (there are clear plans, people have already been found abroad who will accept).” Client: “I’ll come back if I don’t forgive my husband for such an attitude!” Therapist : “Perhaps emotions are raging inside you, and your such words are only based on them...” The therapist can answer this, suppose, also like this: “I also don’t understand your husband’s motives!” Here we see a loss of neutrality. It's not our job to break up a family. It is better to give the client support from a loved one: “You and your husband now have different perceptions of reality.” We do not take either side in the client’s internal conflict: “You have powerlessness, but you also have determination, plans, people who will support " We connect two opposite parts there. Do you also want to share something? Please write below in the comments! It will be important and interesting for everyone to learn something useful for their work or just for themselves! Thank you for your attention! The next, six hundred and thirty-seventh article in the series will be published soon, tomorrow or the day after tomorrow! Sign up for a consultation: + 7 - 9 6 5 - 3 1 7 - 5 6 - 1 2 If you liked the material, please click on “Say thanks”! In order not to miss anything interesting, subscribe to my publications! And please share, material on social networks! :)