From the author: Children are not only the flowers of life, but also a generator of ideas, pranks and questions. Read below about why it is important for them to get answers and what to do when there is no answer. Little daughter asks his mother: “Mom, what is ABORTION?” Mom was surprised, but tried to explain, saying that anything can happen in life, etc., etc., and then suddenly, catching herself, asks: “Where did you hear that?” word? - Yes, here the sailors walked down the street and sang the song “And the waves beat ABORTION of the ship....” The joke goes around the Internet in different variations, but its meaning is the same. Children often ask questions that baffle adults with their unusualness, effervescence, or awkwardness. They ask questions out of true curiosity, in an attempt to understand the essence of the world around them, structure space and penetrate into the essence of things. Why do parents experience so many negative experiences? What makes adults who have seen life feel shy, blush, run out of the minibus, shrug their shoulders, and brush it off with the phrase “None of your business! When you grow up, you’ll understand!” or go to the extreme of swiftly punishing a child? Parents look at what is happening around them from the height of their height, experience and age. By performing the same actions, walking along the same route, they get used to consistency, this makes life easier. Losing their childlike liveliness, adults do not notice the everyday, they lose the ability to be surprised by the simplest things every day. Perhaps that is why, but not necessarily, children’s questions put them in an awkward position. “Mom, look, this guy also has a baby inside!” - a little girl walking with her pregnant mother shouts joyfully and points her finger. Adults, faced with unexpected problems, seem to lose their usual support, a familiar pattern according to which further communication is possible. So how to respond to such curiosity? Exhale and relax. The child is really interested in this problem, and he does not have the task of stumping you or beating you in an intellectual battle. If the child asks a question from the “What is this?” series, calling him an obscene, swear word or a strange word for your hearing, ask again. Usually the phrase “Who says that? or Where did you hear that?”, said calmly and kindly, the child will reveal all his cards. He will tell the whole story about who, when and under what circumstances called Vaska from the next door a person of unconventional orientation. Once again, you will have to turn on your parental charm, self-confidence and tact to solve this problem. If your baby has clear eyes, clear diction and attentiveness, the likelihood is that he will show a “pregnant” man, ask why his aunt is kissing the pussy , she will check with her grandmother about the time of her death, it is high. Such children need an accurate answer. Accurate does not mean comprehensively studied and scientifically proven. Accurate - age appropriate and coming from a confident parent. If an adult cannot answer now, it is better to admit it honestly than to fuss and lie. Children are excellent emotional indicators. If parents put off the explanation “I don’t know, I’m not ready to tell you now, but I’ll think about it,” then the conversation will need to be returned. Prepare, look for an encyclopedia of “immodest” questions and answer both yourself and your child. In general, the birth of a child is the best time to decide on religion, eating habits, attitude towards death, divorce, love and sex. A few nuances. Ideally, if an adult answers , seeing the face, eyes, going down to the child or taking him on his lap. The younger the baby, the shorter and clearer the answers should be. Option “Leave me alone!” - does not count. You cannot be prepared for everything that our children will present to us, but you can learn and grow with them! In conclusion, I suggest you take a mini-test on your ability to answer awkward questions. 1) First, remember the awkward questions from your own or children from your environment, i.e. questions that bother you, worry you or frighten you. 2) In the presence of a child, tell another adult about the news on this topic (television and.