Many parents are looking for an equally simple answer to this seemingly simple question. Unfortunately, there is no exact answer to this question. Of course, everyone decides for themselves how they show or give their love to a child. Let's figure it out together. Janusz Korczak, a great teacher, talented doctor, writer and just a public figure, wrote an entire book “How to Love a Child.” I. Korczak encourages us to see each child as a unique person who has the same rights to respect and expression of their own opinions. It is extremely important for each person to be understood and listened to. Remember how often adults in our childhood brushed aside our words, and sometimes openly said that “you are still small or immature,” thereby making it clear who was in charge here in the house and whose opinion definitely needs to be taken into account. And the first chapter The book is devoted precisely to the topic “The right of a child to respect”, other topics are no less interesting, especially the reasoning about the fact that a beautiful and an ugly child needs to be raised differently. The book is worthy of attention, which just prompted reflection and the search for an answer to the question of love for your child. And instead, new questions arose: how were children treated in the past and now? What has changed significantly during this time? Is there a fashion for raising and showing love for children? Numerous answers to these questions amaze with the abundance of diversity. Until a certain time, caring for children did not look the way we are used to seeing, and sometimes cruel experiments are simply unthinkable for modern people. From the middle In the 20th century, the helping style became popular. A style of parenting that is based on the recognition of even the smallest child as an individual. For the first time, little people were turned to the other side, where they began to pay attention to their needs, and the whole range of emotions became more accessible to them, but it took a lot of time for this to happen, including the departure of adults from punishment to the manifestation of love and care. At the same time, in 1920, the American psychologist John Watson did not give up attempts by parents to completely immerse themselves in their own child and urged parents not to show their children love and affection. He believed that in this way it is possible to raise a child with an ideal character. John Brodes Watson is an American psychologist, the founder of behaviorism, one of the most widespread theories in Western psychology of the 20th century. John began to talk about the importance of attachment a little later (from 1958 to 1982). Bowlby. He developed Bowlby's Attachment Theory. Bowlby's Attachment Theory is a psychological theory that postulates that in the process of dyadic interaction “child - adult” in the period from 0 to 36 months, the child develops an individual system of attachment behavior and is consolidated in the form of a working (operational) system. models of ideas about oneself, others and the world around him. The greatest dissemination and popularization of attachment theory was made by L. Petranovskaya in her legendary book “Secret Support: Attachment in a Child’s Life.” The book talks about how relationships between parents and children are built from the first days of life to period of growing up. The author talks about the phenomenon of children's attachment. The secret support is the attachment of mother and child. First, the connection between mother and child is carried out through the umbilical cord, then through the hands, then the child moves away from the mother more and more. In the process of upbringing, it is important to understand how a heartfelt connection is established between a child and his mother, which helps him learn about the world around him. Now this is a reference book in every family, and quite rightly it helps young parents understand the importance of giving birth and raising a child. Numerous works and works by outstanding psychologists, sociologists and teachers are looking for answers to this difficult question: How to love a child? How to raise a child? There is no definite answer, but there are several recommendations: be with the child when needed, accept his different emotions and help with them!