How often do we ask ourselves this question? And for what? What would we like to understand about ourselves and our lives? The conversations I had with women of different ages, professions, and marital status showed that we practically do not ask ourselves such questions. It’s easier for us to speak affirmatively about ourselves, and in a pitiful or accusatory form towards men, children, the world. I am a draft horse, I am a laundress, a housewife, a bird with clipped wings, a cook, a nanny, whatever. Only from a few I heard - I AM A WOMAN! Who devalued this in a woman? Men, everyday life, difficult life? I will provoke a barrage of reproaches, but I’ll say it straight, because I think YOU DID THIS TO YOURSELF! When did you stop being a sweet girl with a light walk, a playful look, different moods, and a ringing laugh? Then when did a happy family life “fall” on you? Have children been born? Has your husband become rude or does not notice you? Are there financial difficulties? You can continue this list. I think some people could add a lot more here. It is very common for us to blame everything and everyone around us, circumstances, adversity, relationships, age, illnesses. Look honestly into the eyes of that woman in the mirror and ask who made her unhappy, tired, with drooping corners of her mouth, a frowning look? Only you can do it, make yourself like this, and only in your hands do you have all the possibilities to make yourself different! You don’t need to blame everything and everyone, you need to answer one question - WHO AM I? WHAT AM I FOR? Take the first step, tell yourself that first of all you are a WOMAN! What are you for? Let's think about it. Let’s not quote the Bible, I’ll just remind you that a woman is created from a man’s rib and for a man. Without this, its existence has no meaning. To create a man, to bear his plans, his seed, to give birth to his children, to maintain the house, to improve it, to create an environment in the house in which the breadwinner, bringing the spoils home to the woman and children, can rest, gain strength, hear words of gratitude, see loving glances wife and children, so that the next day they can go out again to defend their home and hunt - that’s what a WOMAN is for! I immediately hear your remarks, of course, if only all men were like that! Are you like that in everything? Do you believe in your men, do you give them energy and strength, rest and inspiration? Answer for yourself. But what about living with an alcoholic, a loser? Without going into the origins of these reasons, which are usually considered in depth psychology, I will simply say my point of view. Almost all such men have a woman or whose mother needs this for something. It is necessary that he remains an alcoholic, a loser, a lazy person, and she, hanging medals on her chest all her life, and erecting monuments to herself during her lifetime, will make up for her life values ​​at the expense of his deviations and addictions, and earn recognition for herself in life. Such a woman is co-dependent, she has her own hidden dependencies on suffering, humiliation, self-denial, that is, she has her own way of proving that she is a woman, because she is sacrificial, devoted, patient. Otherwise, what else would force a woman of her own free will to suffer and endure for many years, to support an alcoholic, a lazy person? Everyone has the right to choose, but not everyone is ready to take responsibility for their life and life. There is no need to say that I do not have the opportunity to change, redo, or leave something. You have all the possibilities, but you are not ready to understand why you live, to realize and accept responsibility that this is your and only your choice. Imagine that a man is a tree, a seedling that takes root in fertile soil. There is something that is laid down at the genetic level, there is upbringing in the parental home, there is something that was laid down by the mother and father - the matrix. But YOU are the soil in which this tree will either take root and grow, or dry up. The more fertile the soil, the better and stronger the tree grows, the more magnificent its crown, the more branches it has. And you will feel comfortable, calm and safe under this tree. Without a woman, there is no continuation of the race, of humanity. Only a woman is able to conceive, bear and give birth to a child. No matter how a man treats women, her ability?