Author: Vitaly Pichugin Source: http://www.nlplife.ru/ Conducted a behavioral test. The task is simple, the woman needs to approach the man and bend his head. What came of it? First I showed an excerpt from the film. It shows a formal greeting scene. The girl goes to a young man she knows, bows his head, and kisses him on the forehead. The man had no task to resist and be a “tin soldier.” According to the scenario, familiar people meet. They are ready to greet each other; the woman should take the initiative. According to statistics, eight out of ten women did the following. Remember the “golden hands” type snow blower that shovels snow into itself. The women did about the same thing, they tried to rake the man’s neck, climbing on him a little, fearing that he would not bend his head himself. When they realized that it was difficult to bend their necks when climbing from the side, they began to spin around in front of the man, entering from the other side. The secret is simple. For a man to bow his head, you need to stand in front of him, without coming too close, put your hand on your shoulder, palm up, and with a slight movement, like a lever, tilt your head towards you. Two out of eight did just that. Even when the correct actions were demonstrated, most women still ended up on the man's side and tried to hang on him. It turned out that standing directly in front of a man was uncomfortable for girls; they wanted to go around and stand to the side. Putting a hand on a shoulder seems simple, but there is a feeling of danger, although we remember that people are familiar and simply greet each other. For many, the very approach to a fairly close distance caused fear. And it was not the distance itself that was scary, but the movement towards the meeting. According to the conditions of the experiment, nothing was required to be said, but most women, when they came close, immediately began to talk. They felt a desire to comment on their actions and also ask the man for permission. Although, according to the conditions of the experiment, he loudly and clearly gave his consent to be a “beloved aid” for tilting his head. Almost all women noted the presence of internal dialogue. For example, they asked themselves “what do I look like?”, “What will he think of me?”, they often scolded themselves “I look like a fool”, they noted resentment, aggression “why doesn’t he bend his head himself.” And what about the man who was a “beloved aid”? His comments: “cool, so many women came up on their own, I wanted to help everyone, support everyone, I liked everyone, both those that hung on the side and those that approached directly.” He also didn’t notice any anxiety among the women; he didn’t even think badly of anyone. I would be glad to always be greeted like this. Such a different perception of a simple action.