🔸️There is a special category of people who are ashamed and uncomfortable asking for help. These people are afraid of being inconvenient for their loved ones, colleagues, acquaintances, but the skill of being able to turn to other people for help with some kind of request is necessary. 🔸️The ability to ask for something is one of the ways to take care of yourself. Asking passersby how to get to the pharmacy or asking a waiter in a cafe to replace your dish in which you found a hair or a fly, this is taking care of yourself .Asking a loved one not to scream during a telephone conversation is also taking care of your emotional well-being.🔸️Due to an irrational fear of rejection, some people try not to ask for anything from society, because the fear of seeing themselves helpless or the offended is strong enough.🔸️The request can be short and it has its own structure.✅️The request should have a short rationale, i.e., in one sentence you can explain what your problem is. For example: “It’s stuffy here, I’m in pain.” head, please window, it’s hard for me to do this myself now..." Don’t be afraid to show your vulnerability, convey to the person your physical and emotional state at the moment.✅️The request must have a softening statement, this is an important part of the request, and shows your interlocutor , at a minimum, that you are a well-mannered and cultured person. A mitigating statement conveys to your interlocutor that you definitely do not demand anything supernatural. For example: “It will be good if you pour me a glass of water...”, “you don’t mind if I'll take this chair...."" I will be grateful if you give me a phone number...", "Could you give me this book from the shelf....", etc. A mitigating statement disarms your interlocutor and reduces the refusal rate. You are not making strict demands, you are simply asking kindly.✅️Your request should express gratitude to your interlocutor, this will reinforce the other person’s agreement and give him the feeling that you really value him and appreciate what he does for you. For example: “What you did for me helped me a lot...”, “Thank you so much for your efforts, it’s important to me...” “I am eternally grateful to you...”.🔸️If you There are plans to practice the skill of asking; do not practice all the points at once, but work on one skill for a week. For example: during this week you practice short requests. Next week, add to the short week the practice of softening statements.🔸️In the third week, you can add the skill of appreciation and gratitude to the skills you have already acquired.🔸️Interpersonal effectiveness is not a talent, it is also a skill that can be learned in working with a psychologist or in psychotherapeutic work groups. Sign up for a consultation - via profile link