The Art of Rapid ChangeHello, Alexey Karev is with you again. The topic of today's article is “change.” It happens that a moment comes when we understand that it is simply impossible to continue living as before. Moreover, after this a little more time passes and perhaps we even know what we need to do or change. But how to change quickly or slowly? I would like to tell you this, the fact is that when we change something in ourselves, it affects not only us, but also our environment. At the same time, the positive does not always “pull” the positive with it. For example, you decided to quit smoking or drinking, or, conversely, you decided to start your own business. It would seem that the idea is good and you tell your friends “I won’t smoke starting tomorrow” or “I decided to open a store.” And in response, what will you hear? Support? Or stories about how you shouldn’t do this “I’ve already tried it a hundred times”…. And you, with a little resistance, either lose your previous circle of friends (in the case of starting a successful business), or, more often, “slide” into your previous state (a striking example is trying to quit smoking in a smoking group). Why am I saying this? It's simple, you are not only you, but also your environment. And the people around you should also accept your changes, so it’s easier for those around you when you change slowly, and not “from tomorrow.” Or the second option, “ignite” your entire environment to change with you. Now let's touch on the changes in our personal perception. Remember how in childhood, when a baby tooth is already loose but does not fall out, we have two options (leaving it as it is is terribly inconvenient, so this option immediately disappears). So, the first one is to swing and tear; the second is to tie a thread to the tooth, a thread to the door handle, and then yank the door to get rid of the annoying, frankly childish attribute, the baby tooth. Loosening is painful, long, inconvenient - although the result will certainly be there. But the door is fast, you don’t even have time to understand what happened - just right, children often decide. I, for example, am no exception. I still remember how I suffered with this “door” “fast” option. When you don’t have the skill, it’s difficult to tie a loop on the desired tooth so that it doesn’t come undone and may even “fly off.” It happened that I stood on the other side of the door (I stood there, tensed up, closed my eyes, gathered my will into a fist - I pushed the door, and it opened “towards me”, all my worries were in vain). Such a bummer! Or a fragment remained, and then everything had to be repeated with even greater difficulty. As a result, the quick option turned into “entertainment” for the whole day. Fortunately, in childhood, most of us had experienced people next to us who were ready to help us: put the door on the right side, tie a “dead” knot on our unfortunate tooth, and then this procedure really only took a couple of minutes... Or, another one an example is when we dive into water. If we smoothly enter the water, it seems colder to us, it takes us a long time to get used to it, but we move at a speed that is acceptable only for us, understanding what kind of bottom is under our feet. And if we dive, it takes literally half a second to get used to it - good, but we may not know the depth and obstacles at the bottom in this situation, and if we have not been taught to dive before, we can completely beat off the “belly” - this is not very pleasant.... Why all these allegories? Yes, it’s very simple, all changes in our lives can be made in only two ways. The first is to change smoothly, predictably, without rushing - in your own and only your own rhythm (loose a tooth or slowly enter the water), the result will be; the second is to change quickly, rapidly and irrevocably (pulling out a tooth with a door or diving into water), but you should remember that there is a danger of knocking off the “belly”. Therefore, it is always better to ask someone “who has already swam and dived in this place” how to do it effectively and safely. This way we can save a lot of time and effort and not “step on someone else’s rake.” To summarize, I would like to say that when you plan to make any change in your life, evaluate your strengths. Think about it