Each of us often has to make choices in life. But it’s one thing when we choose a washing machine - we can compare sizes, technical characteristics, check reviews of those who have already used a similar model and thereby guarantee a more or less successful result. And it’s a completely different matter when we are faced with a choice on which our future life depends - the choice of profession, life partner or place of residence, for example. How to protect yourself from mistakes and determine in advance which choice will be correct? I’ll answer right away - no way. Choice cannot be right or wrong. We make a choice in a field limited by our experience with the help of our subjective perception in conditions when everything around us, including us, is constantly changing. We can only choose the best option at the moment, but it is impossible to assess whether this choice was worse or better - now and even more so later. The only criterion by which we can judge whether the choice was correct is obtaining satisfaction in the further process of life. Moreover, it can be either greater or less, since each choice generates the next. And no one can predict where the chain of successive choices will lead. But, nevertheless, when making a choice, there are important points without which it is impossible, and which you can focus on: ① There is always a choice. By refusing to choose, we choose inaction, which is also a choice.② Every choice has its own price. By choosing one of the alternatives, we are forced to abandon the rest. The price seems especially high when we have to give up one of the equivalent alternatives. ③ Choice is impossible without experiencing confusion, sadness, anxiety and guilt because, by choosing one, we give up the other. But feelings are an internal support. If you are able to draw on your experiences, then anxiety and confusion will help you navigate among the different options. Sadness will help you survive the rejection of the unchosen. Feeling guilty will help you remember what you didn't choose, and perhaps return to discarded options later. If you can't stand your feelings, then to avoid them, you may make a hasty, impulsive choice or abandon it altogether, just to relieve growing tension and relieve yourself of responsibility. Then the result of your actions or inaction will be a gradually growing feeling that you are somewhere out of place, out of place. ④ You should be careful with external supports. If there are not enough internal supports, then you can rely on those who are ready to support you, talking through alternatives, expanding the field of your search with their vision and experience and supporting you in your choice. But it is important - in any of your choices! If you are looking for an adviser or someone's approval, then you are looking for someone responsible for your decision. And to get satisfaction from the result, it is you who must make the choice. ⑤ You should not focus on receiving momentary pleasures. The more global the choice, the more distant consequences you should focus on. ⑥ The only thing that does not change is the constant variability of everything (in my opinion, this is from the “Book of Changes”?). Both the circumstances around you and you in them are constantly changing. Therefore, failure cannot be guaranteed to be avoided; not everything depends on you. So - see point 2 - when we make a choice, we pay a price. Including disappointment.⑦ Attitude “I’m always wrong!” - illusion. Our perception is designed in such a way that we take positive results for granted, and negative ones as a disaster. Most often, when dealing with “successful” and “unsuccessful” elections, it turns out that there were quite a few successful ones too. It’s just that a person is used to focusing on failures and is afraid to see reality and the real himself. And such a life position gives rise to shame and fear. As a result, the person either refuses to choose at all. Or he begins to rush at full speed, continuing and continuing to make impulsive choices, in the hope that someday he will win at this roulette and he will be “lucky”. +7-916-48-2-48-33