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How can parents make it easier for their child to adapt? Everything is very individual! And one child can be left full-time on the first visit to a preschool educational institution, while the other will have to be picked up before lunch for several more weeks. Nevertheless, several rules can be identified, the observance of which will help the child’s adaptation. Even during the preparatory period, draw the child’s attention to the fact that none of the children remain in kindergarten at all. Their parents take them all. And he will not be an exception. At first, the child can not be left for a full day. It is important to warn the child about this in a way that is accessible to him. The easiest way is to describe the event after which you plan to pick it up. For example, “you will return from a walk and I will come for you.” When asking a child about how his day went, do not fixate yourself and do not fixate him on negative events. Children, especially primary and secondary preschoolers, will inevitably sort things out through actions, not words. Therefore, there will be conflicts over toys and misunderstandings. At this age, hands work faster than words. That. the child may tell you that he was “pushed”, “beaten”, etc. Moreover, children, as a rule, do not trace cause-and-effect relationships. Although he himself could provoke another child into a fight, the child may not attach any importance to this. And talk as if he was attacked for no reason at all! For greater objectivity, you can ask the teacher. Come up with questions that would help the child remember the good moments of his day, moments where he was great, moments that would cheer him up. What to do? Teach your child to warn the offender before hitting back (The rule “hit first!” has one negative consequence. A child can hit first not only the offender, but also someone whom he considers an offender. Sometimes he can hit quite hard). Teach your child to attract the teacher's attention to the fact that he is being offended. The help of an adult should not be neglected. At this age, children are not yet able to resolve their conflicts on their own. Teach your child to politely ask for toys or permission to join someone else’s game, and not to grab what he liked. In connection with a conflict or fight, the child will still have negative emotions: resentment, anger , anger. Help him not to accumulate them, but to express them in a constructive form. Draw these emotions with him, mumble them, play them.4. Stay of a parent in a group during the adaptation period. This is a controversial point. Firstly, not all educators are ready for this. And not because they are doing something bad in the group. They just don't feel comfortable. But the general atmosphere in the group depends on the mood of the teacher. Secondly, if a child has a mother nearby, then the need to build any relationships with other adults and children automatically disappears. Thirdly, the child is constantly distracted by his mother, monitors her reactions and, as a rule, is more interested in this than in what is happening in the group. If the mother is not in the group itself, but in the locker room, then the child will constantly strive to go out to her to make sure she is there. Usually? in this situation, the mother’s anxiety feeds the child’s anxiety and it can be more difficult for both of them to calm down than for each individual. A paradox arises: although the mother is in the group to make the child calmer, events do not develop according to this scenario. 5. Go about your business, and not stay at the door of the group. When mothers or grandmothers remain at the door of the group and listen to the groans of the child, their hearts break with pain. They are very worried and either at some point they may return to the group to calm the child, or they may become so upset that they will need someone to calm them down. As a rule, children calm down within 5 - 10 minutes from the moment they arrive at kindergarten. 6. Do not approach the playground to see if everything is okay with the child. If the child did not see you, then consider yourself lucky. Usually children can easily distinguish.