One of the most popular questions from parents is: “What should I do when my child gets angry/hysterical/screaming/crying?” That is, he shows emotions. What is the mistake of most parents: they try to do something about this manifestation. As if emotions are something out of the ordinary, requiring immediate intervention. Meanwhile, children's tantrums plunge even the calmest parents into horror. They cause shame and embarrassment in front of others, a feeling of powerlessness and helplessness in front of the little “monster”. In this article I want to share my vision of “How to respond correctly to children's emotions.” Return to your own body: track the rhythm of your breathing, heartbeat, feel your feet, how they rest on the floor. If necessary, go into another room to ground yourself. Abstract from this process: imagine that you are in a cinema and watching a film where your child is in the lead roles. He plays the character well and you don't have to be into this game at all. Look at this scene like a video reporter who is simply following the main actor with the camera, without judging whether this is good or bad. Just a movie. Be glad that your child is an absolutely living person! He has feelings and learns to express them. He's fine, and so are you. Everything is going as it should. If the child allows it, hug him, express your support and faith in him. If physical contact is not supported by the baby, just be nearby. Wait until the child needs your closeness. Name the feeling that you think he is experiencing: “I see that you are angry. I understand you. This is normal. There is nothing wrong with you” or “You are upset, I would be too I’m upset if I were you. “You can help your child express his indignation and anger: have a pillow fight, kick the sofa, take a walk in the forest, in the mountains, where you can scream and listen to the echo. When the emotions subside and the baby is ready for dialogue, you can discuss the situation, watch a movie or cartoon together that describes a similar situation. Talk about how you can approach what happened differently in the future. The main rule: don’t get stuck in one situation, give any feeling the opportunity to be lived. There are no bad or good feelings, just energy that needs to be released. If there is no way out, there is an emergency exit: to remain in the body until the next suitable opportunity. And so over and over again until the body can stand it. But how long will he have enough strength? Do you live through your emotions? What are your favorites? Have you taught your children this skill? The development of emotional intelligence is one of the most important areas in personal growth. If you want to understand yourself and your child, ask for help. I specialize in parent-child relationships and psychosomatics. I am sure that together we will find answers to your questions. Sign up for a consultation by phone: 8914-777-2768