How the abandoned complex interferes with work and personal life. In psychoanalysis, the complex is interpreted as a set of completely or partially unconscious interconnected, effectively colored elements (impulses, ideas, ideas), which determines the structure and direction of consciousness. Complexes leave an imprint on a person’s psyche and behavior, whether the person is aware of it or not. Today we are talking about the abandoned complex and its influence on the behavior of an adult at an unconscious level. Most often, the complex is formed in childhood. A possible reason is the trauma of the abandoned person. For a child in the first months of life, loneliness is an existential threat. And the mother is not always able to satisfy all his needs. The reason may be not only a real refusal to care for a child, but also alcoholism, depression, the need to concentrate on work, lack of one’s own resources, social attitudes, such as the attitude not to be picked up so as not to spoil, etc. More in late childhood, the trauma of abandonment and the complex, as a result, can be obtained due to a lack of attention, contact, and understanding on the part of the parents. Often older children receive this trauma after the birth of younger brothers and sisters, when parents abruptly switch their attention, care and love to newborns. And the older child feels abandoned, superfluous, unnecessary. A person who in childhood was faced with an unbearable feeling of abandonment, uselessness, abandonment, will take it into adulthood. In his personal life, he will learn to wait, suffer, yearn, dream of all-consuming love, but not will learn to be in contact with another person for real - without falling into dependence and without destroying one’s individuality. People with such a complex in relationships are characterized by excessive concern for others, hyper-responsibility, and limited self-care. The irresistible desire to be needed, important, useful, sometimes irreplaceable (then I will definitely not be abandoned) becomes a necessity. A person dissolves in others, in the hope that this time he will definitely not be abandoned. But this is a trap. Everything works exactly the opposite .In society and realizing oneself as a professional, it is difficult for such a person to declare himself. And to constantly declare himself, talking about himself, his services, products and abilities. After all, if he declares, tells, speaks, manifests himself and does not receive the desired attention, response in return, and sales, he will again fall into his trauma of being abandoned, unnecessary. And he will experience these sensations, states, torments from time to time. This is very scary. The subconscious mind blocks a person’s manifestation, thus “protecting” him from emotional worries and suffering. “Sit down for a while.” you’re in the corner and don’t stick your head out. Then no one will hurt you.” And if you still have beliefs and attitudes crammed inside, you come from the USSR. “Keep quiet - you’ll pass for smart” “Keep your head down” “I’m the last letter in the alphabet” “Don’t disgrace your parents "Don't make people laugh" Oooh, here we go. You can live in training, have 5 educations and an academic degree, but at the same time be afraid to open your mouth. And these are unconscious or partially conscious processes that guide human behavior. If you still think that your life is controlled by your brain/mind or external events, then I am coming to you! Do you know? Perhaps you recognize a loved one? I will be happy to save you and your loved ones from this misfortune.