Is it possible to ignore your feelings for a long time? Suppress or simply ignore because these feelings plunge us into the abyss of despair? Because they tell us what we don’t like? Yes, it’s very simple, you say. After all, we have been taught since childhood that some feelings are shameful, they awaken animal instincts in us, and we should not experience them. And some feelings may indicate our inner defenselessness or even weakness, and therefore we should not express them. Here! The starting point for the failure of the emotional course for many occurs in childhood. For a small child aged three or four years, there cannot be a dilemma that he needs to somehow specially pretend and not show some of his feelings. He is truthful and sincere in expressing his feelings. He is happy when he feels good and indignant when he feels bad. But the child’s parents often don’t even like this expression of feelings. By shouting, scolding, or punishing, a parent plunges his child into the abyss of despair. Some children, experiencing the first horror of parental education, experience emotional shock. First they shout, as if they are trying to finish shouting: “Mom, why? What are you doing, mom? It’s me, your son (or daughter)!” Then they fall silent or whine quietly. From this very moment we can assume that the child is losing his emotional well-being and sunny harmony. The protective mechanisms of our psyche, having displaced the trauma deep into the subconscious, save the child from emotional shock. But in the later life of a child, and then a teenager and an adult, deeply traumatic experiences continue to accumulate. Although the very situations in which they arose, and the terrible feelings that were then suppressed, seem to be forgotten. In fact, our psyche is thus saved from the deepest shock. But the emotional fuse of the resulting psychotrauma circulates along the nerve pathways and punches holes in our vulnerable places. Doctors call such places “locus minoris resistencia.” The starting point for all psychosomatic diseases from peptic ulcers to angina pectoris and hypertension is located right here. Therefore, it is very important to detect and neutralize this pathogenic emotional charge. You can try to explore your minefield right now. And you can probably guess for yourself that almost every person has their own mined areas. So, create a comfortable, secluded place for yourself. Sit quietly for a few minutes. Mentally calm yourself before going into a danger zone. Tell yourself that at the moment you are completely safe, that all your organs and body systems are working well. Tell yourself that this important exploration of your own feelings is necessary for your health and development. Now, when you are breathing calmly and evenly, ask yourself: “What or who is ruining me? What things do I not like about myself? What situations cause me fear (anxiety, horror, despair, mental pain)? Carefully monitor all the sensations and images that appear before your mind's eye. If a certain picture appears in which you see yourself offended, humiliated, shocked, try to dissolve it by making the image faded. But after that, be especially careful, because... then the faces of certain people will appear. We can say that they are the authors of the picture you saw. And it is very possible that you will feel a surge of sharply negative feelings and a desire to express all the accumulated anger, anger and pain to these people. And this must be done! Finally free your storehouses of suppressed feelings. And forgive these people if you can. But if you are not ready for forgiveness now, then mentally tell them so. And finally, return their image to them. Let go of yourself. Dissolve your faces, making them faded. Try to see yourself as peaceful and calm again. Tell yourself that you have done something that should have been done a long time ago. Thank yourself for this invaluable experience of realizing your suppressed feelings.