Each person is a complex bio-psycho-social system, where various factors interact that influence our behavior and, in particular, the choice of a partner. In this system, genetics, hormonal balance and neurotransmitter function have important influences. ➡ Our emotions, feelings, as well as the ways in which they are expressed and accepted, contribute to the choice of a life partner.➡ In addition, our behavior is influenced by laws, family traditions, social rules.➡ These factors create a unique combination of influences, shaping our approach to choosing a loved one. When we meet a person, the first important and defining moment is the so-called “chemistry”. Changes in hormonal levels have their effect by causing reactions in the body. Then, against the background of these changes, a variety of emotions begin to appear, which subsequently influence decisions about the nature of the future relationship with this person. Will it be just friendly communication, or maybe there will be a desire to create strong family ties. And then our preferences, which were formed in childhood, also have an influence. More about this - How are preferences formed in choosing a partner? Part 1 It is good if the parents were able to provide an example of a safe, supportive and loving family. What if they couldn't? Then the development of the following scenarios is possible: 1. There is a desire to find a partner who will be absolutely opposite to the type of parent and parental relationship. Your own efforts will be aimed at avoiding resemblance to either parent. It is also possible to strive to avoid even external resemblance to the parent if the relationship was cruel. 2. Perhaps the partner will be similar to one of the parents in childhood. But a person will behave in a relationship with him differently than his parents did, on the contrary, trying to change familiar scenarios. For example, a woman builds a relationship with a withdrawn, distant partner, but her goal will be to change her usual image, trying to get warmth and affection from him, exactly what her mother was unable to do in her relationship with her father.. 3. The image of parents does not always serve as the basis for shaping our relationship with our partner. Then, instead, we choose characters from literary works, films, or other significant adults from childhood as models. In educational institutions we are taught various sciences, but, unfortunately, there is no subject dedicated to building relationships. Therefore, at the very beginning of building relationships, we have to operate only with those images that arise in our minds from what we have seen and experienced, from what has left a deep emotional mark, be it cinema, literature, parental family. Sincerely, Your psychotherapist, coach, interpersonal relations specialist, Natalya Akhmedova