Periodically there are questions on the b17 forum “how to let go of a problem.” This may concern a toxic relationship, an unloved job, a bad company, or something else. And for some reason the person holds on to them and does not let go. I have already written before about how monkeys are caught in India. I want to raise this topic again. Recently there was a cartoon "Prostokvashino". A very vital and paradoxical episode! The ball with the gun fell into the pond. The thing is valuable, but heavy. It is impossible to swim to the shore with him, and Sharik goes to the bottom with him. Oxygen is running out. It seems like they should let him go, but it is so valuable, and Matroskin will tear his head off for it - they paid money for it! But Sharik’s life is free and, therefore, has no value. Having reasoned this way, he decides to drown. Well, isn't it stupid? However, sometimes we also act like Sharik. And it’s good to look at it from the outside. How does it happen in our lives? Someone will immediately “pop up” with annoyance. Someone will hold on until the oxygen runs out and then give up, choosing life and rushing to preserve it. Someone will continue to hold on, and then God grant that intensive care will save you. What makes us hold on to a problem? Several points are visible here. Firstly, there are expectations of other people, a duty (obligation) to them. Secondly, devaluing oneself is a rejection of one’s own value in itself by the nature of things. Thirdly, the priority of the value of what is acquired through labor or money is higher than that which is acquired for free. Fourthly, not the willingness to go into conflict with others, to defend oneself and one’s interests. Fifthly, not being ready to face your own feelings in case of admitting your failure or defeat. Violation of established ideas about oneself. The picture above clearly reflects the problem. Why is it sometimes impossible to help such a person? He may also insist on being pulled out along with whatever he is holding. Or he will want to invite you to carry the bag of problems instead of him. In the next publication I will share my thoughts on what can be done about this problem. I invite you to share your ideas in the comments. Continue reading hereIf you are faced with difficulty in letting go of some of your problems and need help, I will be happy to assist. Write to messengers +79157692322 or via form b17