This article is a logical continuation of the article “Life without expectations” https://www.b17.ru/article/zhizn-bez-ozhidanij/How to learn not to wait? How often is this question asked on courses and consultations. How to learn not to wait? Once upon a time, I also asked myself this question, experiencing yet another disappointment. I wanted to answer everyone asking and myself too. Be aware of my own and other people’s experience. Analyzing and understanding how each expectation ends. If the expectation (of love, an event, a man...) is so emotional that it brings disappointment and stress, then this is an experience. How many times do you need to live such an experience in order to understand that this is a pattern? Any knowledge and development occurs through the awareness of experience. How many times do you need to stick your fingers in a socket to understand that it is better not to do this? How many times do you need to pour boiling water on yourself to fix it? this experience? One time is enough to forever remember that it hurts and you don’t need to do it. This experience quickly perpetuates physical pain. But the mental pain of disappointment from unfulfilled expectations is sometimes stronger than the physical one. Who makes you be a masochist, endlessly striving to receive mental pain? How many times do you need to step on the rake of expectation in order to understand that the result of expectation is always the same - disappointment? Why? so important are the illusions of expectation? What escape from reality is hidden in the mythical pursuit of invented illusions? Any expectation is a claim on time, a desire to speed it up, a desire to escape into the future, at the moment of achieving the desired goal. This is the desire to receive a prize without investing effort. This is a refusal of reality, its non-acceptance. And life is always only the moment “now”. Heading mentally into the future, we miss this priceless moment. Without living in the current moment, it is impossible to find yourself and become a happy person. Waiting is the whim of a spoiled child who demands only one toy, not realizing that there are others that are more valuable for his development. This is the desire to walk only along one well-known path, refusing new experiences. The desire to wait, looking into the future, resembles the behavior of a capricious child, beating on a closed door only because his favorite toys once lay there. The toys and rooms have long since changed... maybe it's time to grow up with the toys? Of course, the scenario changes a little each time. This is what gives new hope. When it is repeated many times, it’s time to think about who the author is, who wrote such an emotional script, and isn’t it time to rewrite it, consciously making a different choice? Why waste your life on empty expectations and useless destructive emotions? After all, impromptu is always better than any expectation! Do you remember? So can he make a different choice and turn his life into an endless impromptu, expecting nothing and enjoying any result? After all, the main thing is to choose a goal, see the direction of movement, and Life itself will present the best solution. And every time this is a new experience, a new awareness, a new development !Accepting all the circumstances of your life with gratitude opens up new opportunities, new impromptu experiences that have not yet been seen in our experience, and therefore it is impossible to imagine! Author Galina Dubrovskaya