We look at the options using the example of a stone caught in a shoe. (this is equivalent to the fact that you went to study at the wrong institute, married the wrong man, they yelled at you and you endured it, got a job in the wrong place, etc.) Someone immediately stops and throws away the stone. Since this is a metaphor, “throw it away” is about making the discomfort go away, so that the situation becomes satisfactory - start doing it right away. Someone goes further, saying, “Well, damn it, a stone flew into the shoe and is in the way,” but still does not stop, endures until the pain becomes completely unbearable. And only when the leg is already rubbed bloody does he throw out the stone. Here sometimes the elementary hope comes into play: “What if it flies out on its own, why should I stop for a stone.” Someone remembers the words of parents, significant adults: “All of us, and our grandparents, always walked with stones in our shoes, and nothing - alive, as you see”, “It’s your cross to live with a stone in your shoe”, “If you haven’t lived without stones in your shoes - there’s nothing to start”, “Good girls (boys) behave patiently and do not pay attention to the stone in a shoe, and certainly not bend over to throw it out.” Someone may think that life is testing him. “Heaven” sent me this lesson (in the form of a stone), which must be passed with dignity, without wincing in pain. Someone begins to look at someone else (husband, wife, parent, child) and think: “Well, Why doesn’t he/she see that I have a stone in my shoe? Doesn’t he/she understand what’s bothering me and what I need in this regard? Why doesn’t he/she offer to stop and throw this stone out of my shoe?” Someone begins to conflict with himself? myself: “Yes, what kind of whiner am I? Well, a stone hit me, well, what, I can’t stand it?”, “Stop whining, I need to pull myself together, my father was right in what he said about me - I’m a weakling. Well, the stone is crushing, but life doesn’t end there,” “I have to endure, learn to live with this”! Someone begins to distract themselves. If you sing a song, you won’t feel much pain. Another pain can help distract you from the pain in your leg - you can pinch yourself, douse yourself with cold water, break a finger on your hand, start worrying about stones in the shoes of children in Africa. And someone thinks at this moment: “We all live with stones in our shoes , life is like this”, “All life is one solid stone in a shoe.” Starts to look around and see how others treat their stones in their shoes. In his attitude towards the stone in the shoe, he is equal to others. Someone begins to get angry with life, with stones, that they are always lying on the way and jumping into shoes. That the wipers don't work well, the road services don't take care of the roads, that's why there are so many stones. People and life are a complete cesspool, is it possible to walk in such conditions without stones in your shoes?! He is angry, but continues to walk with a stone, because the presence of a stone in his shoe confirms his view of the world and people as a cesspool. And if you throw away a stone, your worldview will have to change... Can anyone think about how the stone got into the shoe? Maybe I’m dragging my feet on the ground, shuffling my shoes on the stones, so they fly in? Maybe my shoes are just so open, which means that there is no way to protect myself from stones, I just need to be patient to constantly stop and throw away stones, or change my shoes, or the road I’m walking on? In this way, you can determine your own Authorship in the appearance of stones and think through a strategy to ensure that stones no longer fall into your shoes, well, or get into them much less often. It happens that someone takes out a stone and examines it. Oh, the pebble is interesting, the shape is funny, the color is attractive. If you don’t wear it in a shoe, but take it into my collection of stones, it will be great. You can also make a hole in it and you will get a super bead. Someone, out of spite, continues to walk around with a stone in his shoe. Out of spite to parents, teachers at school, public opinion: “Well, out of spite I won’t throw a stone and that’s it! When I’m completely down, you’ll remember me?