Almost every person has that one or those very books, after which it clicks somewhere inside and it seems that there will be no such thing as the same life. And these are not necessarily some super scientific professional specimens. To understand something, to achieve something very important, to form a vision for the future, it is enough to read a children's fairy tale. And sometimes, even after the most philosophical and profound books, absolutely no understanding comes. Why is that? What does this depend on? Many people know the psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky and his book “I Want and I Will.” The book promises to accept yourself, love life and become happy. If any of you have read it, please share what has changed, if anything, in your life after reading it. My friend said that this book helped her understand that she was in an unhealthy relationship. But then I turned my attention to something else. Then I realized that I was no longer “like an object,” but “now everyone will become an object for me and everyone will go to hell... I’m a star here.” That is, the book switched me from one pole, where I looked to myself as the most unhappy person, with whom something is always happening, to the pole where I stopped allowing others to treat me somehow differently than I wanted, but I allowed everything to oneself in relation to others. Why am I saying this? Moreover, each person will take something different from any book, and when I recommend a book to someone, I cannot guarantee what effect it will have on you. Every person at every stage of his life is able to take from communicating with people, from a book, from consulting with a psychologist exactly as much as he can. Oh, I remember how in a video with makeup I already heard something similar: “Your skin will take in exactly as much cream as it needs now, and just remove the excess with a napkin.” Yes, the book “I Want and Will” did not change my life, it is not on my list of publications that blew my mind. The first thing that blew my mind a few years ago was a book about Borderline Personality Disorder. Then I, with my “I want and I will,” considered myself the navel of the Earth and bought a book in order to enrich myself with knowledge about Other people, they say, what other difficult people we have here. And what do you think? I read and realized that I was reading to myself. This was the state of a person who has sunk to the bottom. I sat down on it specifically and went nuts. This was the point at which for the first time in my life I realized and took responsibility for the fact that the place in which I am now sitting is the result of my actions and no one else’s. So, returning to the beginning of my story. Why do books make the impression that they should on some people, but on others something completely different? Firstly, yes, the topic may be irrelevant. Secondly, one of the versions was born - in order to begin to understand what is said in the books, it is important to be in the state of the subject. This means that what you read, you will try to apply not only to other people (“this is definitely not about me”), but first of all to yourself. Therefore, not “Books that change lives”, but “Books that with the help of which I change my life.” Yes, it’s hard. Who said it would be easy?