This information is generally important for specialists. But at this time it can be useful to anyone. Everyone should have a memo compiled on the basis of this article. So, if you encounter a person (people) who have just experienced some kind of disaster, you should do the following.1 .Scan yourself. It's like being on an airplane. First, a mask for yourself, then for your child. Your boundaries should be strong, clear, dense, stable. To do this, you need to ground yourself - feel the support (earth) under your feet. Establish breathing. 2. The voice sounds loud, clear, clear. Worsens the person’s condition in crisis: fusion, compassion, pity. This is not the time for containment. That is, at the moment we are not addressing our feelings. But we need to be attentive to our feelings. The task is difficult. Help him, support myself: I’m scared now, but I can handle it, I’m almost powerless, I admit, but I can handle it, etc. well 3. If this is a stranger, explain who you are, for example: “I am such and such. Me, helping in a crisis (crisis psychologist). Find out the person’s name (if you didn’t know). 4. Establish eye contact. 5. Lock your hands, stretch out and synchronize your breathing with his (he adjusts). We take you out of the victim state. If you are in a stupor (hyporeaction), then the exhalation is shorter and the inhalation is longer. If there is agitation, then the inhalation is shorter, the exhalation is longer. Words: “I will be with you!” 6. We say: “You are alive. Breathe with me.”7.Knock your feet together hard for grounding; The function is that I survived, there is a notch on the foot itself under the instep. It’s hard to reach, so it’s strong. It is necessary for this point of survival to connect. Not so much to breathe, but to become aware of breathing. To do this, after 15 minutes we repeat the breathing - we are aware of it and help with our hands. We do not hug, we do not give a hand! We only hold the lock with the last phalanges of the fingers (!). 8. You are in a safe place, describe what is around. 9. Explanation. This and that happened to you, but it’s all over (or a respite) 10. You feel: rage (despair, powerlessness) because... but it will pass, life will return to its normal course. 11. It will pass, already It’s gone like it never was before, but you will recover. This will take some time. 12. A clear story of what will happen in the next hour. 13. Tell me what you want to tell. 14. If there are still victims, then the task: to involve in help: this is the best thing - to help others! 15. If it is relevant, hand it over to rescuers.16. If you are angry, come up to grab him from behind, and tilt your palms to your shoulders, knee him in the sacrum and bend him back towards you. For a few seconds. But understand that you can handle it, if not, then call someone who is stronger. You can tilt your shoulders, resting on the sacrum. To be continued. With respect and compassion for you in this difficult time, Elena Kislova. Sign up for a consultation: +7 (913) 985-72-92 (WhatsApp, Telegram). Subscribe to my Telegram channel: https://t.me/psychologist_ElenaKislova