From the author: I professionally help you spin your inner propeller for an interesting, bright, conscious life. I inspire you to be yourself. More materials at: Join to be the first to know! “You know, Julia,” my client tells me, “the road to you took only half an hour from my house, but I really went to you for a year and a half, from the moment when a friend gave you your phone number. I saw her changes, I heard more than once how beneficial it brought her, I have no reason to doubt you, but it’s so difficult for me to ask for help. And now that I’ve come, and I know that you can help, I’m ashamed that I can’t sort out my life myself.” This is not the first time I’ve heard this. Indeed, there are reasons that prevent people from seeking help, even when the burden of problems and unresolved issues becomes very noticeable. For example, the stereotype that a psychologist is for a long time, or like Karina, whose quote I cited above, that a person must cope with his problems himself. It’s also scary that someone else won’t be able to understand our feelings. All these reasons are easy bait that the mind throws at us and which we swallow just as easily. While there is a much more significant reason why a person does not dare. Going to a psychologist means admitting to yourself that not everything is okay with you. Get out of the image of “I’m fine” and admit your fear, pain, confusion is not something everyone can do, because in society, unfortunately, such a person still becomes the subject of ridicule. But it is the acceptance of reality as it really is that is the starting point of change. Therefore, you need to go to a psychologist when you are ready to accept that the reality you created does not bring satisfaction. That from the four letters you have, the word happiness does not add up and your life is rapidly passing... by. And there is no need to blame yourself for the fact that you cannot solve some issue yourself. You don’t beat yourself up because you can’t treat your own teeth (even if you’re a professional dentist)? So why do you think that you should know and understand everything about yourself? The human soul, alas, cannot be touched, measured or looked at from the outside. Even psychology is unable to explain many of the processes occurring in it (in principle, like any other science, it cannot explain all the processes occurring in the Universe). The soul is our personal Universe. Ignoring her is a mistake. But an even bigger mistake is to hope to discover all its secrets alone. As for the question “why go to a psychologist?” - the answer will directly depend on the motive, and the motive will depend on the person’s awareness. When a person sees the cause of his difficulties in the actions of others, he does not suspect that another person is simply a “trigger” for launching his behavior program, which developed in childhood. And he would rather go not to a psychologist, but to a “psychic psychologist, an honorary pilgrim of the Kiev Pechersk Lavra” (by the way, this is a quote from a real advertisement) for a magic amulet from the Tunguska meteorite, with the help of which the problems will resolve on their own. Some of these people have over time, a vague suspicion arises that the matter is not only in the outside world and here comes a turning point - a person either assumes responsibility for his life, or goes to a “proven” karmic cleaner. If you choose to be the author of your life, then you understand that the best way to change the world - change yourself. Then a psychologist is a guide to your inner world. It helps you see the relationships between your feelings-thoughts-actions and reality, recognize ineffective behavior patterns and find an internal source of energy. The answer to the question “Why?” here it’s simple - become yourself again, live life meaningfully and be happy. Gradually improving your ability to notice unconscious patterns of behavior in yourself and other people, to be more flexible to change and achieve a feeling of internal background happiness, without fear of encountering discomfort and negative!