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Among the thousands of questions that a child can ask an adult, only a few can drive that adult into a stupor, forcing him to pause, choose his words, or get off with general phrases. I think it’s no secret that the leader of this kind of question will be: Where did I come from? Most of us grew up in a country where “there was no sex”, respectively, our parents either did not talk to us about this topic, or at best, they silently handed over a book where at least some information could be obtained. It is not surprising that when we ourselves become parents, we begin to experience shame, embarrassment and even fear when we hear the question: Where did I come from? The easiest way is to say: “It’s too early for you to ask about this, you’ll grow up then...” But if we want our children to be supported by us in their psychosexual development, we will have to answer these “inconvenient” questions. And maybe then, our society will grow to the point where it will be possible to talk about the topic of sex calmly, and not be embarrassed, upset or even angry. When and how to talk to a child about sex and is it even worth maintaining this topic with him? second part of this question. Absolutely - yes. And there are two reasons for this: firstly, if you hear this question, it means that the child trusts you, and this is a compliment to you as a parent who managed to build a close and trusting relationship with the child. Allow and even encourage your child to ask these questions. Whatever the difficult or shocking question, don't get angry. After all, our children are most afraid of their parents' anger. And if you can’t find the answer right away, just ask your child for time to think, but be sure to give him the answer to the question. Secondly, it is support for his psychosexual development, thanks to which knowledge of sexual hygiene is formed. This knowledge will make such a difficult period as adolescence safer. If your child is well informed about this topic, he will be protected. Now about how to talk to your child about sex. It is absolutely not necessary to voice all the information at once. Listen carefully to the child’s question, and in your answer, indicate only what he asks you about. To the question: Where did I come from? The answer may be: two adults love each other, and when they hug and kiss, it means that they are in love, and in this love children are born. If the child asks further: Mom, how does this happen? We go into explanations that our body is perfectly structured and has cells. Mom has a cell and dad has a cell, and when they love each other, these cells tend to each other. And when these cells meet, they also love like mom and dad, and from this love a joint cell appears that begins to grow, and this all happens in mom’s belly. If the child becomes interested: Mom, how did she get there? then we tell you that when mom and dad hug each other, kiss each other, their cells run towards each other, in dad’s penis, and in mom’s vagina. There is no need to try to describe all the details, the child will still find out about it among his peers, but by the time he talks to them about it, he will have a base that you will create for him. A beautiful base that will enable the child to be resistant to information that is often inadequate. Knowledge about psychosexual development should be expanded as the child grows. A preschooler (3-6 years old) should know the correct names of the genital organs: for boys it is the penis (penis), testicles and scrotum, for girls it is the vagina (vulva). He should know that a child grows in the uterus and is born through the vagina. Younger schoolchildren (7-11 years old) should know about the physiological changes that occur in the body during puberty, understand the difference between excretory and reproductive functions; know what menstruation and nocturnal emissions are. In adolescence (12-15 years old), all of the above information should be.