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How to start doing something? How to decide to change? How to decide on some action? The scheme is quite simple. First, a need appears that is not satisfied, due to which a person may feel, at a minimum, uncomfortable, and at a maximum, suffering arises. Then a motive is born, motivation. Next, the direct action to satisfy this need (goal) occurs. The now fashionable concept of procrastination is often associated with a failure in the motivational sphere. That is, procrastination is such an “unpurified” motivation. Not everything is realized there, and therefore the motivation is not true, but that’s not about that now. In this diagram, I want to reflect on what exactly is needed to decide on the action itself. Slippage may also occur at this stage. In order to decide on something, you need to make a decision. It's so simple and difficult at the same time. Making a decision means recognizing the risks with which this decision is associated, and also setting a specific date and time for the implementation of this decision. It also doesn’t hurt to tell your significant other about this date and time (it also helps). But this is not the main thing. What stops us from acting? Well, of course fear. This fear may be associated with specific risks that we have identified for ourselves. And that's normal. In general, if we judge this way, then almost any of our actions, manifestations of ourselves, activities are in one way or another associated with risk. For example, I am writing this note now. This is how I manifest myself - I share my thoughts with you and I, of course, take risks. Some people will not like the note, will not like it, will cause irritation, etc. I risk that as a result someone will unfollow me, someone will think “oh, what a psychologist, what is she talking about?!” or “yes, that’s understandable, Cap.” Or, for example, I want to change jobs. There are also risks here and I am aware of them. I'm scared. But I “take my fear by the hand” and go to interviews. Entering into a close relationship is also a risk. It’s scary to open up to another - they may not accept you. Breaking up can be painful. Change, whether we like it or not, always involves risk. When you accept this idea, it becomes easier to make decisions and implement them. My TG channel: https://t.me/berdnikova_psy Join us!