This is the second part of the article about hidden violence. [First part here] Gaslighting."You misunderstood me." "I didn't say that." “Are you even normal?” Such an incomprehensible word. In reality, it is when a person says or implies that there is something wrong with you. That you turned everything around again, and he meant something completely different. And even that I didn’t say that. That is, they are trying to convince you in every possible way that you are a little crazy. Alternation of warmth and coldness. You need to be on alert all the time, because it seemed like there was a good, warm relationship, but now for some reason, for no apparent reason, the person gives you an icy look. There is no understanding of what I did wrong. Coldness can arise because a person simply woke up in a bad mood. That is, you turn into a tool for releasing irritation, dissatisfaction, and draining a bad mood. Blackmail, inducing feelings of guilt, shame. “How could you?” "Good girls don't do that." “If you do as I want, I will love you, otherwise...” The partner threatens to deprive something, not to give it, if it is not according to his wishes. Your partner shames you that your actions are wrong, not normal, and it’s a shame to want what you want. Indicates that it is your own fault, that I lost my balance and shouted at you, you drove me crazy. I don’t earn much because you don’t inspire me. That is, you turn into the cause of failure, and all your actions are not normal, wrong. Presenting yourself in the role of a victim, and you in the role of a rapist. “I work for you for days, but you just demand attention.” “I feel bad, but you don’t care about me.” The partner indicates that he sacrifices his time, energy, even his life for you, but you don’t appreciate it. And, moreover, you use your partner, enslave him, force him to waste energy, work a lot, etc. to meet your needs. And don’t thank them. That is, you turn into an exploiter, rape and demand. Have you encountered such subtle types of violence? Do you know how to recognize them? How do you recover later? If you don’t know how to get out of such a situation, or how to recover from such violence - write. Let's look for a way out and resources together in consultations. #Alena_Reznik#psychology_Reznik Sometimes a person feels somehow strange in a relationship. Not safe. As if something suggests hidden violence. how to recognize it?