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Have you ever been in a great mood in the morning, but an hour later you want to kill everyone?💯Has it happened! Emotions overwhelmed you, overwhelmed you. So, how can you manage these emotions? 1️⃣ First, let’s establish that management is the creation of the necessary emotion. Not at all holding back the previous emotion! This does not mean that another emotion should be crushed, since restraining emotions has nothing to do with management. 2️⃣In addition to everything else, emotion is the result of an assessment of external events, or rather our perception of these events. Therefore, in order to change the emotion, you need to change the assessment.🔼A simple example. The administrator of the beauty salon was rude to you. What emotion does this make you feel? This could be irritation, anger, anger, resentment, bewilderment, etc. After that, you go to the procedures themselves and heartily share with the master that placing orcs and ghouls at the administration counter in beauty salons should be prohibited at the legislative level. To which the master answers you that this girl’s mother died yesterday. What emotions will arise in you now? Sympathy, empathy, pity, probably shame and guilt for yourself and your proposals for changing legislation.❗And now attention! The event is the same - the rudeness of the administrator, but the assessments of this event are different. Accordingly, your emotions are also different ❗☝️The assessment occurs unconsciously and very quickly. Your task is to separate the event and the assessment.‼️And for this there is the “Curious” technique - during a resonant event (you are driving, and the car in front of you suddenly brakes) you do not yell at him with obscenities, but slowly say “LO-BO- PYT-NEN-KO.” This will give you a pause to insert a new assessment (what if he stopped so abruptly so as not to run over the kitten?). In this way, you will change your emotion of anger to an emotion of respect and joy, that not everyone in this world is a woodpecker.✅It is important to understand that this technique is not a panacea, it is a skill that needs to be trained. It is also important to understand that you are not doing all this for in order to justify someone else’s irresponsible behavior, but in order not to “waste money” on each such irresponsible person. YOU always come first!!! For new clients, I conduct a free 30-minute diagnostic, where we will identify the true problem and ways to overcome it.!