We live in a world where, having heard the scent of someone’s perfume on the street and learned its name, we can place an order in two clicks and in a few hours enjoy it from our wrist. Or on the way home from work, order ingredients to prepare dinner, which will arrive on time. I very well remember my childhood feeling of surprise when I learned that in the West people can order ready-made food on the Internet without going outside. It seemed to me just unimaginable magic. There are so many opportunities around us, what could be bad about it? If you look from the perspective of progress and increasing the comfort of life, nothing. But if you look inside us, we can still find the fly in the ointment. So fast and getting what you want without requiring any effort is dangerous because it creates the illusion of control over the situation. If a person lives in the illusion of control over everything that surrounds him and worries about what does not depend on him (other people’s thoughts, views and choices), he We may find ourselves completely unprepared for the inevitable confrontation with the awareness of the limitations of the things we can influence. We may feel as if we have the power to gain much more than we actually do. So, for example, we are sure that we must have a certain position and salary that we dream about, a love relationship with a specific person who may have no idea that he was chosen. Instead of meeting our needs, we plunge into anxiety. Have you noticed how nervous you get when you have to wait 5 minutes longer for a taxi, or when you come to a city where food delivery is not so good, you worry that the service is so lame or the waiters in the restaurant are not friendly enough? It is dangerous to make happiness dependent on things outside of our control. What can we do about it? It is important to develop an understanding that in reality we do not even have complete control over our own bodies, let alone the thoughts and motives of other people that determine them behavior. Of course, to one degree or another we can influence promotion at work, the growth of our salary, or the general impression of others. But we do not control the result of our activities. Convincing other people that we are right or making them think about us in a certain way is beyond our power. Tormenting ourselves with questions “what will happen?”, “what will they think of me?”, “no matter what happens,” we focus on what does not belong to us. Ask yourself more often whether you really control what is happening to you now .And then try to accept what does not depend on you, and where the result depends on your efforts, develop and do everything possible. In this way, you can help yourself reduce anxiety and see how much effort is wasted in trying to control the uncontrollable. Give yourself a break from this.