How to get out of helplessness through finding a position? Dear readers! I would like to introduce you to an excellent technique for reducing anxiety and feelings of powerlessness - the personal position method. Existential analyst Alfried Längle has created a resource-oriented and self-strengthening tool that helps us mobilize ourselves in difficult situations and more easily cope with daily life challenges. When we have made a choice in our favor, we can simultaneously experience tension and heaviness. Then we can rely on personal strength, willingness to make choices, and voluntarily agree to a cause in which we believe. For example: when you have made a certain choice and are afraid of making a mistake, this method can help you overcome the fear of making a mistake. A person’s ability to take a definite position in relation to the problem helps to remove him from the passive role of the victim. I offer you a simple method of finding a position for working with a state of helplessness, anxiety, fears, and uncertainty. What does it mean to take your position? This is an opportunity to evaluate, understand your attitude to the situation, and express an opinion. This gives us support and stability. A three-step method for finding a position and strengthening the “I” in critical situations, developed by Alfried Langle: 1. Look outside. Position in relation to the outside world: Closely consider and evaluate what is difficult to withstand, what is stressful, what is threatening? Translate feelings, thoughts, fears to the level of experience: - How exactly does this happen? - Is this really so? - How do I know about this? - What is this doing to me? Then relate the facts to the real situation. Separate yourself from your environment and your experiences: here is the world, and here is me. I am and I am not the same as all my problems and circumstances. Example: I’m afraid to start driving a car, I’m scared by the large number of participants on the road, traffic jams and accidents. I find out from friends, from the news. This causes me a lot of stress and anxiety.2. Look inside - relate to yourself. Position in relation to the inner world to assess resources: - Do I have enough strength? - Can I withstand this at least once? This step is to realize your imperfection, accept your imperfections, weaknesses. The position frees you from self-criticism and dissatisfaction, unrealistic demands and expectations from yourself and the people around you. Example: I have knowledge, experience and a driver's license. Each participant on the road is the same as I once started from my point. I know that experience is gained through practice. I'm a little scared, but I already have experience and can handle it, I definitely can once!3. Open up to values. Position regarding the meaning of the action: - What is this situation about for me? - Why do I want to do this? - What good can happen thanks to my efforts? Example: Overcoming the fear of driving will give me self-confidence and freedom of movement. I will respect myself and be proud of my courage! More articles on the topic of helplessness: Why do we fall into helplessness? Check if you have a tendency towards helplessness? How to get out of helplessness by finding a position? Disclaimer: Psychological techniques and methods for independent practice broaden your horizons and can help in some situations. However, they do not solve serious problems that require professional help. If you find it difficult to cope with a difficult emotional state on your own, I invite you to a therapeutic meeting. I guarantee confidentiality, care and safety! Did you like the article? Be generous with your likes and comments! Can’t cope with your emotions, your life, do you need professional support? I invite you to my caring and safe space! Online session RUB 3,000. In person Balashikha 3500 RUR.