There is a fairly common statement that every person is a psychologist in one way or another. And this statement really has the right to exist. After all, we are all constantly in contact with the world around us. Every day we interact with other people and gain experience in building and maintaining relationships. And although we all participate in this process, each of us forms our own experience. To a certain extent, through contact with the world and people around us, we get to know ourselves. And thanks to this contact, we have an image of ourselves. Since nowhere are we taught how to properly build and maintain relationships, we learn this ourselves. At the same time, we learn mainly unconsciously, through copying the behavior of our parents and people important to us. And how we build our relationships depends on how these people close to us influence us. If our loved ones are able to form and maintain long-term and friendly relationships with other people, most likely it will be easier for us to form this skill too. If our parents and significant adults do not know how to do this, then it becomes much more difficult for us to reproduce this in our lives. Each of us, in any case, has the opportunity to learn this, but not all of us want to learn. And everyone who does not want to learn life, through the occurrence of various problems and troubles, will again and again be given a chance to gain this experience. But very few dare and cling to the chance to change their lives. And there are many reasons behind this unwillingness to change. I won't go into all of them for now. I'll mention just one. This is a banal lack of knowledge and skills that can be applied in your own life creativity. This is why all people have psychological experience of interacting with the world and people around them, but not everyone is an “expert” in this interaction. And therefore, if you need this or that help, then it is better to contact someone who can really help. And you don’t always need to turn to a professional for this. But if you really want to get quality help, then you should pay attention to whether the person you are contacting can solve similar problems in their own life. Agree that it is stupid to seek help in financial matters from a person who can barely make ends meet. The same applies to issues of mental health, relationships, etc. It’s worth contacting a person who can act as an “expert” and really provide help. And the guarantee of successful assistance will not even be the absence of such problems in the person to whom you turned, but how effectively he can solve them. Again, if we give an analogy with business, who would you turn to for advice: the heir to a multimillion-dollar fortune who has never had financial problems or a person who, through his own efforts, overcoming difficulties, achieved material well-being? I think the answer is obvious. The first “adviser” simply will not understand you, he has never experienced anything like this and will not offer you anything useful. The second, on the contrary, has experienced all the difficulties “in his own skin” and, from a position of experience, can provide competent assistance. Based on the above, you can immediately understand that the myth that “a psychologist is a person who has no problems” is simply not real. On the contrary, a psychologist is “obliged” to have problems (no matter how funny it sounds). But first of all, he must have experience in solving his own problems, only then can he effectively help others.