The line between education and destruction of personality is very thin. When parents forget that in front of them is not just a child, but also the embodiment of a unique, new, separate from them, individual combination of characteristics, features and traits, attempts begin to realize their plan to realize the person of their dreams - everything that is in the parents themselves (both good and bad, considering that in this context these are subjective concepts) + everything that does not exist, but would really like to. And then a person is born, so small, innocent, just a beginning explorer of life. A person who needs, first of all, love, care, and safety. Everything that the closest adults should certainly give becomes a protected, confident foundation so that our little person can build and develop his individuality and personality. But what happens in those cases when parents make it clear to their child that “we will We will love you only when you behave the way we think is right”? And you don’t have to talk about it. It is enough to push a child away with behavior so that he subconsciously begins to understand that he is not good enough for mom and dad. Further, everything is much simpler - he learns behavior that can earn love by giving up his personality. Uncertainty, lack of self-acceptance, low self-esteem, inability to say no, the desire to be useful, even if it costs you dearly, fear of being rejected - all this can be the result of the fact that exactly this pattern was learned from childhood - I do what others like - they love me - I’m good. And if I am myself, they will not love me - I am bad. Love, unconditional love is a necessary condition for a person to be able to be himself. Education should be from a position of acceptance; in all other cases, a person loses confidence that he is unique and loved and learns to adapt in order to earn recognition.