I would like to highlight this issue from the point of view of a practical understanding of what this phenomenon is and how to deal with it. The inner critic is not a creature :), but an internal function. And she has a need to be in us. And this is the function - to protect and preserve. The task is good, but it is carried out in such a way that is not useful for us. Our parents or someone significant in our lives often did this, and these can be completely different people. For example: when we were told that we should not do this because it is not right, or “don’t wear that skirt.” you look bad in it” or “don’t talk in that tone, because you look somehow wrong,” etc. Not in all cases, but in the majority, the behavior of the people who told us such phrases was imbued with strong feelings, anxiety, and concern about us. And at the same time, people did not quite keep track of how this lays down on our soil. In some cases, people did not at all track how it lays down in us and could say something very traumatic: “You are worthless,” “Freak” , “Stupid”, “You are a disgrace to the family” and the like. And the “inner critic” is some kind of hodgepodge of statements that were once said to us. This set of phrases has been collected over the years, a huge story of our lives. And when a person asks the question “What to do with the inner critic?” - he asks the question “What to do with this neural chain in my head, which automatically turns on every time some kind of trigger acts on me? It turns out that you need to create a new chain of behavior that will consist of small actions - Other actions. And In some situation, when you notice that the inner critic has come and persistently tells you something, is it important to notice Him and how is he perhaps scared and that’s why he is telling you something or is he ashamed of asking you what? - should you stop or start doing it? After you notice him, what would you like to do with him? If you hear him and understand why he conveys this information to you - in each individual situation you will choose a different behavioral solution. , in some situation you will agree with him and decide not to do something (if it will be useful for you), in some situation your internal conversation with the “critic” will be like this: “I hear you, I see your fear , we will remain whole, I am now choosing what causes you fear, because it is important to me.” It turns out that you learn to observe his work, separate him from yourself, and you can take care of him. And then your relationship changes in such a way that he is not the one who guides your behavior, he is a little smaller, a little more fragile, and I can take care of him, I am stronger and more resilient, more reliable. I see him and observe him. Make an appointment with me for a consultation +79260562697 Telegram, WhatsApp