It’s unpleasant when they insult you, publicly hint at your incompetence, ridicule, criticize... You can behave in such a way that someone else will lose interest in doing this. You just need to learn to take care of yourself and know how to behave in such a situation. One option is not to take it to heart. That is, do not let the offender into your inner world. As Karel Capek said: “To criticize means to prove to the author that he did not do it the way I would have done it if I could.” The words of another reflect the essence of him, not yours. Remember this, so that first you take a break and do not go into those emotions that the offender wants to bring you to, disarming your common sense. If you are still overwhelmed by anger, try to stop by asking yourself the question: “What am I doing now?” The answer will be something like this: I’m angry, he has no right to say that; I protect personal boundaries/personality/honor; I want to tell you that he is wrong; if I don’t answer, it will be a defeat and the words of the offender will become true, etc. The more “battle”, the more penetration of the offender into your inner world. You seem to let him into your opinion about yourself, proving him wrong. Remember the move with the Trojan Horse? So here it’s the same story - you are distracted by one thing - “look over there, your low self-esteem” and while you are looking, the enemy enters your territory. The enemy in this case is unpleasant information that becomes one with you. This very enemy is like a virus that begins to infect your brain cells with an opinion about yourself with a “-” sign in different areas of life. Be careful with yourself and the information that you let in! If you managed to maintain balance and not succumb to emotions: - ask to stop, in a calm and confident tone, looking into the eyes - do not pay attention, depriving the other of your reaction. People who insult others can behave behave this way for various reasons: - because of personal insecurity and elevating oneself by insulting another; - to impress someone, to attract attention to oneself; - some consider this a harmless joke; - someone is used to communicating in this manner ...These reasons, of course, do not provide grounds and are not an excuse. But for you, they can bring an understanding of the other side of unpleasant contact and draw up an action plan that will help save your nerves. It happens! How do you usually react when another person tries to humiliate you or criticize you??