When the soul hurts...Client sessions again. The conversation is being raised again about what is happening now, in the country, in the world, in a huge, bottomless and immense soul. The soul of a person who lives, lives now. He lives and wants to understand at least something of what is happening outside and inside. Those who understand everything, of course, don’t need help. But there are others, it’s not that they think worse, or have problems with intelligence, or are not up to par with their education. No. Just the opposite happens. These are people who reacted sharply to the changed situation with their personal grief, their pain and colossal helplessness. Are those who, during periods of crisis, internally gather, mobilize and flourish in resources, are protected? In a sense, yes. During the period when changes begin, such people have time to make supplies, draw up a survival plan for the coming months, complete repairs and clear up the tails of many pending issues. How long will the resource last? It is unknown, the resource of such people usually ends not suddenly, but gradually, manifesting itself in the form of accumulated tension, which, finding no way out, gradually begins to destroy the usual rhythm of the body. Either blood pressure, or migraines, or muscle spasms, or you can’t sleep, or you can’t stop your appetite. Why? And the accumulated energy has nowhere to go. Stress activated possible and impossible resources in organisms. After preparation in the form of implementation of plans had taken place, it would have been necessary to dump the remaining energy and go into “exhale” mode, but that was not the case. The influx of new information does not allow a person to feel confident, even a little, in what already exists. And with what already exists. And the stress doesn't go away. And so on in a circle. Those who react to stress by withdrawing also seem to be “lucky” at first glance. There are no strong emotions that distract you from work and everyday activities. There is no desire to run, do, change, save. Rather, on the contrary, for those around them, such people seem to slow down. Sensitivity may become dull, and the reaction to what is happening also changes. Does this mean that they are not aware of what is happening? Of course not. Perhaps this very topic crushed them so much with its force and irreversibility that their own lives faded into the background. I want the usual, minimal understandable actions, a bed and a TV. And cover your head with a blanket. The idea of ​​irreversible change is so scary and strong that the most important task of such people is to freeze and stop everything inside themselves... thoughts, feelings, sensations associated with the frightening topic. And God forbid, you have to face your attitude towards all this... God forbid. Such people can be recognized by the principle of gradually abandoning the list of familiar joys. On a visit? Not now. I have long wanted to buy myself a useful gadget, equipment, new clothes, or a subscription. Why do I need this now? Take a walk? Go out into the street, where I don’t know what awaits me? No need, it’s somehow strange now. The choice in this case will be not to waste, but to save energy (although just the opposite), and move less, so as not to accidentally get into a situation with new input data... And this threatens to open a cache (the unconscious), in which there is a lot of stuff experiences were hidden over many years of life... And how it will cover... There may be people with similar types of reactions in your family. Why am I saying this? Moreover, the aggravated situation around can negatively affect the communication of close family members. For example, adult children and parents who live separately. When discussing a difficult situation, in dialogue they often focus on the “evidence base of their position”, losing sight of what they would actually like to get from communicating with a loved one. And the end result is a quarrel, an argument, or thoughts about wasted time and total misunderstanding. My practice shows that communication with loved ones is valuable because we can openly talk about the fact that we are worried, anxious, sad, feel superfluous or powerless, scared or depressed, etc. It is not necessary to discuss why!!! You don’t have to touch the situation itself, that’s correct. 8(921)9467328