A person searches and does not find the meaning of life. He lies down on the sofa and suffers, becomes depressed, suffers, sometimes it comes to suicide. Of course, to begin with, something happens to him, something doesn’t work out, and then he begins to generalize - that EVERYTHING is bad, that he NEVER has anything It doesn’t and won’t work out that NO ONE EVER understands him, that it’s impossible to live like that, that life is generally meaningless. Or he realizes that he is not living the way he wants. Or that he has already achieved a lot, but it hasn’t made him any happier. How does this work? Our mind is responsible for meaning, our emotions are responsible for happiness. If emotions are suppressed, not allowed to oneself, considered bad, unacceptable, abnormal, rejected, then the search for meaning begins. Sooner or later, the search ends in disappointment, heartache, and sometimes tragedy. And all this, in fact, happened much earlier. As a child, parents praised and scolded. Praised for good studies, health, scolded for bad behavior, bad grades, reproached for illness. What children often hear from their parents: “You must study well!”, “You must go to college,” “You should not cry,” “Your opinion was not asked,” “You must listen to your mother,” “Don’t bother,” “ You must get married,” “Who will be friends with you?”, “Who will take you as a wife?”, “Who will need you?” etc. etc. Parents inspire that the best thing that can happen in life is marriage, work, children. In reality, the best thing that can happen is happiness. Happiness is maximum personal fulfillment in any area of ​​life, in any business, in any relationship, in everything that a person HIMSELF wants to try. Happiness is not meanings invented in advance, not other people’s attitudes, not the rules of other people (even parents and grandparents!), but the pleasure of life. You can get pleasure from life by following YOUR internal guidelines, and not imposed rules and speculations. Fortunately, there are parents who do not teach their children what they should be, what kind of people they should grow up, and do not insist that the main task of children is to the immediate life is not to deceive their parental expectations. Such parents walk among us. And their children are able to become happy and enjoy life. I wish you joy in life! Your psychotherapist. Dear readers, thank you for your attention to my articles! To get my advice, call +7 (950) 026-67-62 or follow the link