Modern psychology is well aware that childhood is not just the foundation for the development of the entire personality, but in childhood the child forms and accepts his entire life scenario. Those. Even before he is one and a half years old, it is unconsciously laid out how he will end his earthly life. Naturally, it was not the children themselves who told psychologists, but people whose fateful problems were solved precisely in such an early period. Of course, everyone had problems in their relationships with their parents. Many people still have them. Sometimes, even after the parents have passed away, there is a feeling of guilt, incompleteness of the relationship, resentment, etc. Thus, parents are always invisibly present in a person’s life, often guiding or limiting him from within. After all, it is parents who are the very first helpers and teachers in this life, who lay the foundation for your future. Upbringing, the example of one’s own parents, whom the child observed and learned to understand such concepts as family, intimacy, relationships - all this lays the common path along which life then flows. It is parents who instill in us such eternal truths as: - try - be the best - be strong - hurry - please me These quintessences of life's wisdom, of course, are passed on to children with the best intentions, with the desire for them to be successful in this world. However, unfortunately, parents usually, out of habit, do not even think about what is actually behind this: “try” never implies achieving a result. Usually these are people who have never achieved anything, whose only excuse is “I tried so hard”; - “be the best” only brings disappointment, because in the whole world there is always someone who does it better and life turns into an endless race ;- “be strong” makes a person exhausted all the time, always and everywhere, eventually earning a heart attack; - “hurry up” does not correlate with achieving a result and the quality of what was done: “I was in such a hurry, but I still didn’t achieve anything”;-" make me happy" is a good attitude... for others, which does not imply "rejoice yourself" and as a result, an accommodating, meek and comfortable unhappy person grows up. When a child takes one or more of the listed statements on faith, all these unsaid things remain as if open loopholes for problems. But the goal is not to suddenly understand what kind of pig your parents sometimes set up with the best intentions - this will not improve either your relationship with them or your life programmed by them. By the way, it is precisely because of the underlying understanding that “something is wrong here” that these relationships are often spoiled. The goal of my work is to create all the necessary psychological conditions so that you can replace these instructions with more useful ones for your own life..