The work of a psychologist: Interesting and Useful 680 Good afternoon, Dear Friends! And we continue to study the work of a psychologist and its various features, we continue to share our experience and knowledge accumulated during practice. I bring to your attention the six hundred and eightieth article in the series. In the last two articles, we began to consider some aspects of working with a person affected by a fatal illness. Today I will add, as promised, a few more words to this sad topic. So... Our client was diagnosed with a new tumor, a new metastasis. He told us about it himself. It is important to ask the client whether he is ready to talk about this now, whether he wants it. Here it is important and generally respectful of the client’s defenses. For example, to avoidance. After all, our client is not ironclad, not infinitely strong... The psychologist here can say this to the client, here and in general when working with him: “Perhaps my questions will be too painful for you. If so, then tell me, please, and we’ll come up with something else, we’ll talk about something else.” More than ever, it is important to establish cooperation with the client. In some ways, this is similar to the work of a dentist: “We drilled and drilled, and you say, when it starts to hurt... We will remove this, and we will save this...” Here it is also important to understand that, yes, our client is dying now, but he is different from us only that he dies faster. We also die, we strive for death, but more slowly. It is important to realize how painful this topic is or not for the psychologist himself. Maybe, if this is the case, then it is important to take care of yourself and the client, not to interfere in places where both feel bad. Here they can tell me that I need to go for supervision or personal therapy. To this I can say that it is impossible to prepare for all cases and not to fully work through yourself. Therefore, it is important, first of all, to be attentive to yourself too. In this situation, it is not the primary emotion that can hurt, but the secondary one, which I mentioned in the paragraph above now. You may want to talk to such a client in the style of saying that we are respected people and everything is fine with us. Out of fear of touching the topic of illness and death. If this is the case, then it is important to notice this and not go so far into this manner of communication. Do you also want to share something? Please write below in the comments! It will be important and interesting for everyone to learn something useful for their work or just for themselves! Thank you for your attention! The next, six hundred and eighty-first article in the series will be published soon, tomorrow or the day after tomorrow! Sign up for a consultation: + 7 - 9 6 5 - 3 1 7 - 5 6 - 1 2 If you liked the material, please click on “Say thanks”! In order not to miss anything interesting, subscribe to my publications! And please share, material on social networks! :)