“Personal boundaries are something beautiful and important that helps us live a full, happy life and build healthy relationships.” A woman named Anna came to me for a consultation ( name changed), the story of which once again made me think about how many people live without setting boundaries for themselves and suffer from it. Anna was on the verge of emotional and physical exhaustion. Her eyes were filled with tears. Clenching her hands nervously, she began to talk about her problems in relationships with other people. She talked about how she was always kind and polite to other people, but how this often left her feeling unfulfilled and exhausted. First Person Story: – When I was a child, I was always told that I should be polite and kind to other people. I grew up adhering to this rule, but, unfortunately, I often forgot about myself. I was willing to give my energy, time, and resources to help others, even if it meant giving up something that was important to me. Often this led to me feeling overloaded, tired and depressed. – But I’m good. – I do everything right. Ever since my school years, I believed that it couldn’t be any other way. At work, I They constantly ask me to go on a day off or stay late because I need to help, and it’s very difficult for me to refuse, because it’s not good. And I began to notice that what was once my favorite job became a nightmare for me. I began to hate her. But recently, I found myself in a situation where I needed to protect myself from a person who did not notice my boundaries. I couldn't find the strength to say no and resist because I was afraid that it would mean that I was bad, that I would let down his hopes, his trust, that I was a bad person. As a result, I began to have a panic attack, I was simply “throwing up” from feelings of anxiety and fear, from powerlessness. When I came home, I felt depressed, an insignificant and worthless person. I was torn with negative emotions. Now I began to understand that saying “no” is not a sign that I don’t like other people or that I am bad, but it is a way to protect myself and maintain my health and well-being. But I don’t know how... This story shows how important it is to be able to set boundaries and take care of yourself. Indeed, learning to say no and setting boundaries can be difficult, but it is very important for maintaining health and well-being. Here are some tips to help you along the way: Understand that boundaries are an important element of healthy relationships. Find a way to express your boundaries clearly and confidently, but with respect for other people. Don't be afraid to say no if you don't want to. what is asked of you. Remember that this does not mean that you do not want to help, but only that you have your own boundaries. Remember that boundaries are a way to protect yourself, and not a manifestation of unkindness or cruelty. Learn to listen to your body and emotions, to determine when to set boundaries. Set priorities. Determine what is important to you and what you need first. Find support. Discuss your problems with friends, family, or a professional who can help you learn how to set boundaries. You have difficulty setting boundaries?