Signs of a crisis: Loss of spontaneity (the child’s behavior becomes less understandable, he begins to play roles, i.e. inside he is no longer the same as outside); Mannering (the child pretends to be something, appears artificiality in behavior, clowning, clowning, the child pretends to be a buffoon); The child understands what he feels (not just angry, but knows that he is angry); The child develops self-esteem, demands on himself; The child’s behavior changes suddenly (without visible reasons); The appearance of a pause between the address to the child and his response (“as if he doesn’t hear”, “I need to repeat it a hundred times”); The child tries to challenge the parent’s request and/or delay its implementation; The child refuses to carry out usual chores and responsibilities; The child is cunning in order to break the rules (for example: showing wet hands instead of washed ones); Behaves by copying adult behavior (caricature of adult behavior); Does not want to look “like a little one”; Reaction to criticism escalates, the child wants praise; In communication with an adult abstract topics are introduced (about the weather, sports, nature, etc.); Shows independence in performing certain independently assumed responsibilities. What to do: Remember that a crisis is a temporary phenomenon (usually up to 6 months); The tone of order and edification does not work with children of this age. You need to discuss with them what and why they should, you need to jointly analyze the consequences of their actions (the argument “Do this because you must obey me, because I am your mother” does not work); Keep promises. He remembers them all and will remind you on occasion; Find where you can increase the child’s freedom and independence and increase them (cancel the corresponding prohibitions); Be consistent in the rules (those prohibitions that you decide to leave should ALWAYS remain prohibitions, despite the child’s behavior, ELIMINATE situations “today it is possible, but tomorrow it is impossible”); Provide the child with the opportunity to take on new responsibilities, and be sure to express confidence that he will cope with it (DO NOT SAY “You will have to redo it!!!”); Remember that the child is already not small. He now has his own opinion, for which he wants respect (Not agreement, but respect. Respect = recognition of the full right to exist as it is). Subscribe to my VK or new Telegram channel to read even more of my articles.