CONSULTING FOR FAMILY COUPLES Family constellations in the group helped to discover many hitherto unknown causes of conflicts between partners. Often it is not the faded events from childhood, youth and former connections of these people that are significant, but the events and love relationships in their parental families. It turned out that in the destinies of people there are forces at work that go far beyond the limits of their personal desires and feed from unconscious sources. An important role here can be played by the separation or divorce of parents, as well as the premature death of a father, mother, brothers or sisters, or when a person does not know his parents. The constellations, revealing the captivity of clients with the fates of their parents, show that many conflicts in the relationships of partners have nothing to do with themselves. Unconscious involvement in the love suffering of former characters of the family system makes partners blind and insensitive towards each other, they can each other to hurt without taking into account the feelings of another person and not noticing the harmfulness of such behavior. The main task of the arrangement is to penetrate into the depths of archaic relationships and pick up the keys from the unconscious captivity of someone else's fate. There are other aspects that affect conflict in relationships between couples, I’ll just list them first : abortions (have far-reaching consequences), an imbalance of give and take, and also when each partner is committed to the desired improvement in the other (like I want him to become different), There is an opinion that love in a couple’s relationship is ultimately It’s a matter of feeling and it all depends on choosing the “right” partner. But the constellations show the opposite: many of the feelings that fuel conflict between partners are associated with ideas about an ideal partner or deepened images from the parental family. The educational contribution of the constellation lies primarily in debunking various illusions. The consultant focuses exclusively on the next possible step. Path, goal and Responsibility for the success of the couple's relationship remains with the client. Thus, everyone is responsible for themselves and both parties maintain equality. The phrase “let me be accepted as I am”, so popular in relationships between partners, is a good motto for the relationship between client and consultant.