This is not about the appearance of most Russian-speaking women and men, although it’s cool, of course :) This is about love scenarios that are common to absolutely everyone, regardless of the specific turns of the storyline. The point is simple: to get to the prince/beauty , you must first fall in love with the monster/frog. Both of these tales are about the same thing. It’s about the masks that we, out of fear, grow for ourselves as children. A mask for mom, a mask for dad, for ba and de, for the teacher, for other children, and so on. There are many masks, they are different, for which people cover each other with the supposedly offensive word “two-faced,” without realizing the double standards and the need to do this for survival. These masks are not necessarily arranged in a circle in order to turn different sides to different people depending on the circumstances. They are simply stuck on top of each other, in layers, changing places, mixing, getting entangled and growing back to the original face. They become us, or rather, we become them. And so, in this confusion of grievances, envy, fears, mistrust and attempts to compensate for all this, two people meet. Maybe they are being led by some of the masks, or maybe between the masks something real, glowing, kind, warm and very vulnerable is flashing. Here’s a short story about this: what distinguishes a person from an insect, tell me and why you never show these properties ab If people fell in love not by masks, but by this bright essence, by a spiritual spark, then they may well be able to save each other. Not to pick at, manipulate and force, but to heal. How? Of course, with love. What is love? The same as friendship, with only one addition: - Sexual passion - Respect - Gratitude - Trust - Desire to cherish (tenderness) In this case, what happens is something similar to the interaction of magnets: people turn to each other with exactly the best and true side. This happens not only among lovers: any person offers his message to another in communication and receives back something corresponding to him. For example, a person who is confident, persistent, strong and at the same time kind and loving always evokes a desire to turn to him with his best side. And it will not be a mask, but real pulp. How does he do this? He ignores masks and looks straight to the essence, through all the layers. And the essence responds because it cannot help but respond. Well, except for the most extreme injured options. Then they simply run away from him as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, there are very few such strong and kind people, for this you need to not only be well-developed, but generally understand everything in life, and come to complete harmony with yourself. But this is not necessary for lovers. They are so excited that everything works out by itself! Therefore, friends, if you feel that at the very core you and your love object have good contact, do not be afraid of other masks, layers and fears. Persistently accept yourself and each other with all this junk, and then it will fall off. Not only for you, but for everyone else. If you are stuck on a mask or two, and you don’t like the rest, and you can’t see the point at all, then honestly admit it to yourself. Enjoy yourself as much as you can, and then say goodbye, because he won’t be able to stand it and fall in love, but it will definitely hurt. Author - psychologist Andrei Yagodzinsky