Crises and appropriation of experienceCrises are inevitable. It is part of life, like the seasons in nature. There are many classifications: 7 years, 9 years, 3 years, relationship crises, personal crises, etc. Often during a crisis period there is an “exacerbation” of what we have long ignored at a conscious or unconscious level. It seems that all this has fallen on your head completely suddenly, but if you look closely, you can find signs of unresolved issues that have been dragging on for years. These can be vague sensations of discomfort, the cause of which cannot be discovered, outbursts of anger, causeless sadness, psychosomatic manifestations, a state of chronic stress, depressive episodes. And in crises we have the opportunity to resolve these situations or continue to “accumulate” errors until the next peak. And here it is important not just to “endure” such a period, but to exhale and honestly answer yourself: “how did I end up in such a mess?” What decisions, or more often non-decisions, led to this point, what problems so affected the basis of the personality (values, beliefs) that they were not even realized. The ability to appropriate experience, that is, draw conclusions from lived events, and not just collect memories, comes as you “grow up.” » psyche. Probably everyone has a friend who has been making the same mistake for years (if not, think about it, maybe you are him))) and at the same time the person seems to be unable to get out of this algorithm. Reasons may be different: emotional triggers, clumsy beliefs, or that same inability to analyze your past and turn it into something that can be used to improve the future - into experience. Appropriating is like admitting that this really happened in my life, this really happened to me . And this can be very difficult. Since such rakes are most often pieces of old emotional deficits, words of significant (and not always living) people in the head, traumatic events and a bunch of other things that can be unearthed in a psychologist’s office. So, if you are now in a period of crisis, try don’t close your eyes and honestly look at everything you came to this point with. By drawing conclusions now, you will be able to survive the next crisis period with minimal losses. Not without them, no. A crisis without pain, unfortunately, is impossible. But you will undoubtedly have more strength and resources.