Competition is in our blood. We often compare ourselves to others at school or at work. We check out what people's lives are like on social media, comparing ourselves not only to family and friends, but also to celebrities and influencers. is competition good for us? How does this affect mental health? What can you do to change your attitude? Competition can have positive effects - we become more ambitious, we have big plans, we are determined to take action. However, if we experience setbacks that we cannot overcome, it can affect our relationships with loved ones, our effectiveness at work, and our overall well-being. Behind competition with others lies primarily in the ways of behaving and functioning in society that we have endured. from childhood. According to many, the measure of success was the approval of parents - the greatest reward. Of course, most of these actions were motivated by as good intentions as possible. Parents should encourage children to do well in school or achieve small victories. It is important, however, that children are able to cope with failures and disappointments. Focusing solely on success can lead to emotional disturbances in adulthood, which is often one of the most frequently discussed issues during sessions with a psychologist. Learning to cope with failure is a complex process that is worth starting because it can help us in everyday life and also affect our overall well-being. What can we do? Above all, beware of the "proud parent" trap. Parents very often compare their children to others. Many of the factors are very individual, including depending on the totality of circumstances. By sharing excessive information about their child, perceiving and storing other people’s unnecessary information, parents can feel anxious and bring their fears to their children. Similar situations are observed in older children who are already walking to school - most often their performance is compared in their presence, which can affect the child’s self-esteem, first of all, a decrease in self-confidence.