Author: Pichugin Vitaly Source: http://www.nlplife.ru/ Wife: - I’m filing for divorce! Husband: - With both horns - for! There is a proverb: “Input is a ruble, exit - two". We fell in love and fell in love, what next? And then there should be a good, sincere, and pleasant life in all respects, if the goal is well thought out, hidden intentions are honestly discussed, and both are satisfied with everything, but what if not? People make mistakes, that's normal, but mistakes need to be corrected. You fell in love yourself, you fall out of love yourself. Even if at the thought of life apart from another person you feel relief, a feeling of liberation - it means everything is right and you need to part, but be prepared for the fact that in reality it may not be so easy. There is another option: the relationship no longer exists, people have actually broken up, and past love prevents you from building new relationships. It can be more expensive to fall out of love, but it is possible. If there is an entrance, there is also an exit. What is the feeling made of: I love? In other words, how do you know what you love? The answer, “I just feel” is not very informative, so let’s figure out what the state of falling in love consists of. What pictures, sensations, smells, sounds fill this “I love”? If you offer to imagine a picture of falling in love, then it will also consist of something, for example, there will be colors, a frame, a background, volume, it will be located somewhere in space, at some distance, maybe there will be movement, perhaps , someone will be in focus, in the center of the picture. At the same time, you can feel something, warmth in your chest, stomach, pulsation, “frost on the skin,” yes, “goosebumps that run.” The sensations are very different. Sounds? Whisper, melody, just speech, specific words that have a certain timbre, volume, sound speed. This is the set of all of the above in different combinations - I love it. Quite prosaic. Fire used to be considered divine, but now porridge is cooked on it. So what to do with these pictures, feelings, sounds? Change. Sometimes it happens that you loved a person, loved them, and fell out of love. What happened? If you find out, the state of love will be represented by one picture, feelings, sounds, and the state of dislike will be represented by another picture, other feelings, sounds. To understand the significant difference, sometimes it is enough to compare only the pictures. Why not use this fact? If you know how exactly love differs from non-love for you, then you can try replacing one with the other. After all, time will do it for you anyway, but why wait and torture yourself for a long time. So, let’s try to change what the pictures of love and non-love are made of, if you decide that this is really necessary. A small digression for those who think that the particle “not” is not perceived by consciousness and cannot be used to denote the opposite of the word “love” ". Indeed, if some caring mother shouts in winter to a child running on the ice, “Don't fall! Don’t fall!”, as a rule, the child falls. She simply gives him the command “Fall!”. In order for the baby to understand what “Don’t fall!” is, you must first understand (imagine) what “Fall!” is. And while he is engaged in a complex mental task, as a rule, the command “Fall!” is executed. However, “Dislike” is not the same as “Love”, these are different concepts, as, for example, it is easy to imagine the word “slob” , but it’s unlikely that anyone will represent “Ryakha”. Therefore, feel free to change pictures of love to pictures of unlove. When copying, a link to the website http://nlplife.ru/ is required.