If screaming has become the norm in your communication with a child, take care of yourself! To avoid screaming when talking to a child: Lower your demands Our children sometimes learn independence skills so quickly, they reason like adults that we forget that their brain is not yet mature at all, and the child will make mistakes. If it is difficult for a child to understand your instructions, then you need to change its wording or change your approach. For example, a child does homework with you late, you have already read the problem to him three times, and he just starts crying and saying that he doesn’t know the answer. Exhale, leave the room, drink some water and think about how else you can help your child understand the terms of the task at 8 pm? You can use pictures or take apples from the basket, lay them out on the table and play with the problem. Give us feasible tasks, not only according to age, but also according to emotional and physical condition. If the child is tired, do not ask him to put things on the chair. If a child is depressed or upset about something, do not forgive him for not “showing his character.” Perhaps right now your child needs help, even if he knows how to dress himself, brush his teeth, and wash his plate, this does not mean that he does not want care when he is tired or upset about something. Teach self-regulation skills Play games that involve experiencing different emotions. Learn how to be angry in an environmentally friendly manner. Allow any emotion and most importantly, tell your child that you love him, good and bad. It is also important to love yourself in any condition. Explain what is happening to you if you couldn’t restrain yourself and shouted. Mom is, first of all, a living person who might not have had a good day. It happens, and that's normal. It is important to explain to your child that the reason for your anger and screaming is not his mood or behavior, but you yourself. There is no need to explain the whole situation to the child, just the thought that the child is fine and you are not. For example, you can say this: “Darling, I’m very sorry that I raised my voice at you, we don’t communicate like that in our family. Today I’m a little tired, I’ll rest and everything will be fine with me. You’re not to blame for anything. More Since I’m sorry I shouted, my cry is not about you. I love you.” Prohibition of disrespectful communication Make this a rule in your family. Come up with sanctions for someone who lashes out at someone else. The rule might sound like this: “In our family we don’t communicate by shouting. If someone yells at another, the other will inform him of the rule and offer help. Only adults help, children remind of the rule. In case of violation of the rule, the one who shouted must apologize and try to explain what is happening to him. If a child did this, the parent helps explain.”Do you manage not to yell at your children? If you have a breakdown, what do you do first: take care of yourself or worry about your child’s feelings??