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Often we ask ourselves the question: “Why does a person act this way?” Misunderstanding of another comes from our understanding of the world. We believe that people think and feel like us. And therefore we expect the reaction and behavior of others as from ourselves. We build relationships with a person, expecting from him in advance the model of behavior that we have formed. We shift our own conjectures onto another. And then we get disappointed because they ascribed non-existent qualities to him. Another may think that you don’t fit into his ideas about how to act in a given situation. We are all different. Everyone has their own beliefs, attitudes and their own world. You can try to talk about your universe, just keep in mind that a person is primarily interested in himself. To avoid pointless disappointments, do not expect mirror actions. Learn to give others the opportunity to be who they are. Without creating illusory expectations. Try to accept and understand human nature. This is important to do if you want to continue communication. Do not make a fantasy film out of this relationship, otherwise people will be your inventions. Take the first step towards yourself, say that you understand the importance of communication, and therefore I will try not to redo the other. We all need to ask ourselves questions: “If I do this, will it make the relationship better?” If yes, then do it. No - think... The world is surprisingly rich in the reflection of our actions and thoughts! In order not to get fixated on relationships and not suffer, we need to reduce the importance of what is happening. Think that up there, they know better where the cloud is floating and what the picture should be. And the outcome of a given event does not depend on how strongly you are involved in your own experiences. Remember that the force of action is equal to the force of reaction. The more I resist, the stronger the tension. Learn to expect good things only from yourself! No one should meet our expectations. The happiness of communication lies in understanding and fine attunement to mutual co-creation in a space of trust.