From the author: sexologist-psychotherapist, family psychologist. expert on television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, master of NLP, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, which you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube and typing “Afanasyeva Liliya. My client from Moscow told me that she has a complete lack of sexual desire, a low level of libido, and doesn’t want her at all. have sex. She has been married for almost ten years, she has two children. She married for love. The woman never had a particular desire to have sex, even initially. She always had a low level of libido, and quite quickly the client began to avoid sex. She also gained weight, and an additional problem was added: “I don’t let her get close to her body.” Next, there was aversion to sex and embarrassment, they became her constant companions. I must say that I, as a sexologist, psychotherapist and family psychologist, always ask women. : Does she somehow satisfy her sexual needs? To which the client from Moscow replied that she had never experienced an orgasm with a man, and always did it for herself, through masturbation. Therefore, now the reluctance to have sex here is quite predictable. It manifested itself as a consequence of everything stated above. Accordingly, it is difficult to increase the motivation to have sex and eliminate anorgasmia, because there is no need for a man as a sex partner. In this case, we can indirectly somehow harmonize sex. It is worth understanding some of the side effects of a lack of sexual desire. I, as a psychologist-sexologist, made a number of changes - eliminating stiffness, adding relaxation. Instead of the condition: I’m afraid and uncomfortable, I filled in: “pleasant” and “bright,” and my client from Moscow changed the topic: “prevents me from relaxing” to: “perk up my spirit.” In addition, there was added more orientation towards the erotic phase - kissing, touching and hugging. We also changed the following problem states, eliminating a number of negative beliefs that were behind them. There was the idea that sex was useless. Here she saw herself as a teenage girl, for whom it was not entirely clear why sex was needed. Now we have added rationality and maturity, and the client realized that at this age she had a normal perception for herself, but now it should become different, corresponding to her and the status of a married woman. Further, the feeling: “I’m not sexy” also resonated with problematic self-esteem. The client recalled that when her friends were in demand, she could not build a relationship for a long time. Now all this is behind us, and the woman is filled with a new concept for herself: “the smell of sex and sexual instinct.” After that, I added additional accompanying conditions to my client from Moscow, which will help her discover the sexy woman in herself. It was: playfulness, lightness. She let go of her troubles and difficulties, and at the same time pushed her mind in sex aside, saying that: you need to think less, and feel and do more. On this note, we have completed our work on the female sexual problem of anorgasmia. PS This article is fictitious and has nothing to do with real characters. #sexologistfanasievalia #anorgasmia #vaginismus #sexologistMoscow #frigidity