In the last article we looked at the main fears that prevent us from moving forward and starting something new: fear of the unknown, fear of condemnation and fear of defeat 👻It's time to figure out how to work with them - and for I will now give you 3 very effective psychological techniques✍🏻😎They can be used for absolutely any fears - so we make sure to save and use them!🚀as I already said, our brain is designed in such a way that the worst thing for it is the unknown, and the first technique is based exactly on this. You must write down on a piece of paper (you can use notes on your phone, but better by hand) 3 options for the development of events in the situation that worries you (the worst, the average and the ideal) + your specific, step-by-step actions for each option. Having crossed this stage of the unknown, your brain will begin to experience possible options and the degree of fear will greatly decrease 🔥 a simple two-step technique that gives quick and great results in working with any fears and anxiety. Take it for every day😎🎯Step 1. Check the facts. What really happened (non-judgmental)? Are you catastrophizing the danger? For example, “I am coughing” is a fact. “What if I have coronavirus?” - this is anxiety and catastrophizing. “My husband is on the phone all evening” - this is a fact. “It seems that he has cooled down towards me and perhaps he has someone” - catastrophizing. 🎯Step 2. What actions are within my area of ​​responsibility and control? What can I really do? Who can help me and how? We make a list of at least 3-5 possible actions and at least 3 people who can help you. The “What’s the worst thing about this?” technique will help you figure out the true cause of anxiety and pull out the trigger. To do this, ask yourself mentally the question “what’s the worst thing about this?” at least 5 times - until you realize that you’ve reached the core. For example: I’m afraid/I’m uncomfortable meeting men ➡ what’s the worst thing about that? ➡ maybe the man will turn out to be unsuitable/evil/dangerous ➡ what’s the worst thing about that? ➡ what if he offends me? ➡ what's the worst thing about this? ➡ that I can’t stand up for myself ➡ what’s the worst thing about this? ➡ I am afraid of being helpless and dependent. Next, study all the information that is available regarding your fear, or make yourself a checklist on how you can prevent this. Let’s say, out of fear from our example, it could be some kind of checklist: - meet only those who are polite, neat and attractive - communicate by correspondence/telephone before the meeting, get to know the person - meet on neutral territory, do not report personal information for myself - to build personal boundaries that are important to me... and so on. For those who are interested in psychological techniques for independent development - welcome to my database of techniques, details in the profile in the pinned post ❤At the moment there are more than 200 of them on the channel, of which 35 are for fears and 60 for anxiety 😅 these are the popular topics 🤷🏻‍♀🤪Techniques for independent psychological work are available on my Telegram channel, to get a full database of techniques for any request (both client and for independent work) write in private messages or telegram